This Christian Couple Feels Divorce Is the Only Option | Dear Future Wifey S5, E511
This Christian Couple Feels Divorce Is the Only Option | Dear Future Wifey S5, E511
People get married for different reasons. Unfortunately, some people find out the reasons their spouse married them during the divorce. Pain. Heartbreak. Spousal betrayal. Betrayal of self. Pervalia and Vincent McIntosh are about to hit send on filing their divorce papers. This gut-wrenching episode is titled, “We’re Getting Divorced.”
CONNECT WITH THE MCINTOSHES: Pervalia https://www.instagram.com/pvgaines_1/
SOMETHING EXCITING IS COMING: https://www.thelitsociety.com/
DONATE TO KINGDOM ROYALE: “Where foster kids become royalty.”
DEAR FUTURE WIFEY MERCH
SUBSCRIBE & LEAVE A REVIEW
Youtube Channel: https://www.Youtube.com/DearFutureWifey
Apple Podcast: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-future-wifey/id1506095537
Google Play: https://play.google.com/music/m/Iae4cjudkuuxmjnjza7zputjfuu?t=Dear_Future_Wifey
IG: @dearfuturewifeypodcast | IG: @laterrasrwhitfield
Lors. I pray that a godly man will mentor Vincent to become the man he knows he could be but don’t know how to get there. In Yahweh’s Name, Amen!
You right about that when a woman is a breadwinner.
Maybe he’s bipolar. When I’m hearing he keeps coming up with ideas, starting tasks on a new business plan but never finishing. Spending so much money on products to start a business but then his feelings changed and now he wants to do something else. Meanwhile the wife is running the business and he’s not showing up. Maybe he is bipolar and it’s undiagnosed.
He feels like he could get better…he’s conquered her and now he’s discarded her. She wants to make it work though because of “covenant” but this is a sad sad relationship,they’re both beat down. And she said she doesn’t have an aptitude for abuse,well my sister he abused you mentally,emotionally,financially and even sexually. He broke her down on purpose,why,I don’t see that but he spotted her out,learned her and then broke her. End of story.
Look how she acting when that man express himself!!!!
I am so glad I clicked on this video!!!!!!!
She is serving God by continuing to serve him. Don’t make sense; I know but shes loyal to the Lord; she making sure she not on the hook for this in the end.
Oh lord…please help her. I cried with her.
No shade at all, but I think something that should be noted here is the ineffective counsel these people received. I do think that people of the cloth providing counsel is important, but I wonder if an actual licensed professional provided therapy, their outcome might be different. They may not have even gotten married because they would’ve identified the red flags before this.
He never loved her. He truly love the idea of God, saw her as someone to connect to his true yearning of God, he wasn’t attracted to her physically she was just a ride to the destination he wanted.
Thanks be to our amazing God, who gives us sufficient grace through each and every situation. Girl, that 12 years are years of purpose. They aren’t wasted years. You’ll come to realize it years to come.
I appreciate both of them for staying true to their truth. I appreciate them for attempting to fight and try. Coming on here and being transparent had to be hard. It is true God hates divorce and according to the word proper grounds are adultery however as a Christian therapist, I can’t say if they divorce God will condemn either of them. I’ve seen too many people attempt to stay together due to biblical principles. While making each other miserable and destroying one another’s purpose in life. God knows who we are and where we’ve been in life. His inability to love her will only serve to continue to break her. We often make choices outside of God’s will and then ask God to fix them.
I remember being that person that kept my guard up and enter into marriage caring about a person deeply but did not truly love him. I married because he was a good man and I thought because we were of the same faith it would be ok. I never asked God if this was a good companion for me. I never loved him like a wife should love her husband. I begged and pleaded with God to give me the heart to love him. We eventually divorced and today he and I are better for it. God is a redemptive God, I am presently healed from my brokenness and my ex is enjoying his life. I don’t promote divorce but I understand why it may need to take place.
I hate the pain both of them have endured but I can appreciate his honesty to allow her to be free. Recognize he is loving her by letting her go to be loved the way God intended her to be loved. We can’t stand in judgment but I truly am grateful for their courage to share. She and he deserves to be free. If David can be saved after having many wives and killing a man while taking his wife and impregnating her, they can be forgiven and still live a blessed life too. God gave him the courage to let her go, he could still be there not loving her that is an empty and painful feeling for both people involved.
I have avoided watching this for awhile because I knew this was going to hit home so bad for me. I do relate so much to her and had done most of the same things she had done. My ex husband told me that he was never attracted to me after the 1st year of our marriage. My ex was so much like him until it is shocking. I did everything to hold it together. So, after 6 years of marriage I filed for divorce. We have been divorced now for 6 years and now I am completely happy. Thank you for this episode. Just reminds me of how far I have come to with my healing. God is awesome and amazing ❤️
This is a broken man, especially cos it seems like he never really had a father/male figure.
You are taught to be a wife, and though to be a husband. No one taught this brother.
HOWEVER, this lady unfortunately has pride, spiritual superiority complex and an inability to take accountability or even see herself for who she is. She argued with the anchor, when he was trying to explain to her what her husband’s behaviour was and where it came from.
Her pride and the way she has been in the marriage has further emasculated the man and bruised his ego that he has dissociated even more, hence why he looks numb.
Women these days we’ve been raised to save, give, do, have saviour complex and these characteristics emasculate men and shut them off unfortunately.
(She mentioned how her mother had to pick up the slack).
The man also doesn’t know himself or who he is, and has taken on the image of what his wife has said he is.
He had no idea of himself before he got married.
He is broken, very emasculated and insecure that he uses meanness, coarse masculinity, coldness and “mysteriousness” to still come off as a man eg “I’ve gotten mine go get yours”.
The man is just a shell of his whole self.
She is prideful, can’t take accountability and has severe spiritual superiority complex.
The devil loves people who are stubborn.
ignorance, lack of self awareness and stubbornness the devil loves.
They both need healing and realisation of their faults.
A man looks up to those above him, pulls up those beneath him BUT fights those who try to be equal with him.
With her behaviour and mindset of a saviour, if she had married a real whole proper man, she would have broken him, be unable to submit or would have been divorced much more quicker.
The part where GOD instructed him to cook for her family and she rubbished it, shows the level of emasculation and her own unyieldedness and insensitivity to the spirit.
If you do not heal, you will make the same mistake and continue the cycle.
The Husband has a level of awareness and he is well on his way to healing. She however, is still very aloof unfortunately.
He husband actually see her as a man, and she’s made herself so.
The “spiritual experience” she describes with so much pride aren’t even Biblical, GOD isn’t a demon spirit, HE Will never usurp you will. To be chosen, you have to be willing and pay the price after your calling. Even JESUS had to be willing to go to the cross. But that’s very beside the point.
I say all of these because I have been this woman, I thank GOD for the Holy Spirit.
I pray for healing.
I am crying and you have only prayed
Lord, I have never been married but I can feel her pain! Thank yall for this realness!
I love your words of wisdom for them. Thank you.!!
You’re the man but she messed up your process with God….you talking about fasting Brother all you did was skip some meals
Thank you so much for sharing your truth which is helping many….so many need help and insight…
Excellent pod cast on the pitfalls of marriage. This type of relationship is more common than peaple know. Marriage is not for everyone. Even in our perfect imperfections we can get this thing ; "Marriage" wrong. Press forward young people…. Gods speed!
He’s saying a lot and fumbling through his feelings. Men rarely admit they are broken. As a broken man I can attest….we don’t show or express our feelings. We hide behind liquor and smoking and other shit to not feel. I can’t speak for him but I do because I never really feel heard.
I think it is ingrained for (most) men to be providers, and (most)women are natural caretakers.
Great video, I was in a beautiful marriage before my now ex wife left me,i still love her and most times i cant stop thinking about her, i am doing my very best to get rid of the thought of her, but i just cant, i love her so much, i dont know why i am bring this here for, i cant stop thinking about her
Respect to both of them for being open and transparent. Many marriages can use this example of honesty in their relationship before it gets to the point of divorce.
When he said he mimics others sounds like narcissistic mirroring
My husband told me that he doesn’t love me anymore…I just stood there – speechless! My sister don’t worry, you will be fine, I am ok now, thank God! Their Loss!!!
Many folks look for God to come into the relationship from the outside like Superman to intercede in there marriage. When we should each become god consciousness within the relationship.
Everyone talking about the couple. But nobody talking about Laterras. This man has a calling! He is anointed. God is talking to us through him. God bless you. Many will find healing and discernment through you.
This was so heart breaking. I hope God will bless her with a Godly Husband that will wholeheartedly love her unconditionally and take care of her as well as her children.
This marriage is well and truly done !! He is emotionally, mentally and physically checked out .They need to release each other .May they both find peace individually with themselves..All the best people xx
This is so amazing I’m divorcing after 35 yrs Christian family but broken. I know all that she is going through I’m looking at her brokeness and see all my pain all over again ! God bless this couple and your Podcast
I wanted counseling she didn’t
You are an awesome listener! This is truly an eye opener.
She’s not fully being honest about her hurt and trauma in my opinion. She’s not letting go and it shows. I understand your are godly but be honest with what you been through and own that shit and how it manifested your actions and behavior in your relationship!
I Love It!!!!
I also value Laterras’ facilitation of this interview. He was holding both their feet to the fire and not letting up until they told the TRUTH
We need the Holy Spirit to get it Right in marriage.
I found alot of healing from my violent upbringing and was engaged to a man who seemed very different from my father, which is what I was looking for.
The man walked away from me and married another lady.
Recently, I found out the lady had divorced him because he almost killed her with his fists.
I thought I was smart, careful and intuitive, yet I almost married a man as violent and physically abusive as my father.
We really need to be in step with the Voice of God so we don’t miss it.
He said His sheep hear and recognise His voice. God help us
Jesus.!!! That God speaks in 3 took me out.
Emasculation contributed to the demise of their relationship. I pray that God would heal her heart and fill the void that only he can fill. Sometimes, we try to make our spouses fill in voids where only God is supposed to fill us with his love and healing. Those voids are not meant for our spouse. Her husband appears to have received his healing in being freed from the emasculation of this relationship.
This womam is evil. She does not understand people or men. He was not using her!!! He was trying to survive and build himself within the relationship so he could become a man eventually….She should not have gotten married to a man who could not provide for her…she was trying to take over the male role and it backfired on her. She is not intouch with reality about black broken men.
For the couple, thank you for your openness and even for the episode. The closest I’ve come to divorce is my parents, so to hear these couple is like a therapy session for the married and unmarried.
I pray they find healing and wholeness in Christ. There’s still purpose and life to live ahead.
I want to recognize the humility of this brother. To be exposed the way he was and not have an ego about it? Wow. Rare. Praise God for the Holy Spirit that this gentleman allowed to work in him. And his wife? What ah absolute precious gem that woman is. I pray you both find joy, peace and deep healing.
The more I listen to this woman I am convinced she is a mouth a massy who cuts him off in communication and wants to dominate him. Woman u cannot buy a mans love. Learn that …u cannot continue to sacrifice and fish for love. Let the man be…leave him alone for another woman who is less domineering and controlling. Lady some men’s personality is that they hate domineering women even if they are weak. Well trun off the comments boss. Posted comments before u said not to comment.