HONEST CHRISTIAN DATING ADVICE | physical boundaries and finding the one!
HONEST CHRISTIAN DATING ADVICE | physical boundaries and finding the one!
// dating q&a from a Christian perspective! this is a q&a video sharing my advice and opinions on your dating questions. I talked about dating someone who does not share the same faith as you, physical and spiritual boundaries to have, discerning confusion from someone you’re pursuing, not idolizing your partner, and not comparing your relationship to others. I hope this video is helpful and do know that I’m not an expert, this is just from my heart 🙂
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I feel like some of y’all are brainwashed by your pastor
If we would all let the word of God set our boundaries and be our guide the world would be a better place
I admire your faith and loyalty to God. I pray that our God blesses me with a lady that has a faith as strong as yours!
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Wait I’m a Christian 12yr old and I have had 3 ex’s they were all Christians and generally good people, it was NOT a serious relationship BC of our age but I need to know if it’s a sin to have a non serious relationship at young ages
Jesus said stay single and celibate for me if you can, all of His commands in the 4 gospels for us to do is the "at least" thing as Jesus’s servants to carry out like all His teachings are. He said only by obeying Him you will be saved. Luke 6
Don’t take the mark of the beast or you will be locked out of heaven! Right hand or forehead, the only way to buy or sell.
hi michelle this is such a great video….I so relate to the idolizing the significant other….let’s kit I followed you on instagram my name is helena_helen_1985. Stay blessed and inspirational always xxoo
Christian women that want to be wives are instructed in Scripture to follow the pattern of Sarah who called Abraham lord . The modern notion that a marriage is a partnership isn’t scriptural. The wife must obey her husband in all things and the husband is to love his one wife as Christ loved the church and gave his life for it
Funny how someone who never had sex in her life yet is giving advice on sexuality and how important it is in life. Sad, how believers distance themselves from the rest of the world by raising their kids with the teaching not to marry someone who does not believe and thus keeping up their bubble forever and ever.
All guy’s intentions are sex or closest to it. Every guy deals with this everyday. If a guy say he doesn’t have this problem then I wouldn’t believe him. Even King David, a man after God’s own heart, with 2000 wives still lust after another man’s wife and had him killed so that he can have her. Sex will be a thorn in a guy’s side and God is not about to remove it. However, He will help you deal with it.
I hope you guys enjoy a bit of a different video about dating! Timestamps below for specific questions! Thanks to everyone for asking questions, praying this helps some of you out.
1:52- Advice for waiting for the one when you’ve been single?
3:31- How to avoid idolizing your significant other?
4:58- Should you date someone who doesn’t share the same faith as you but supports your beliefs?
7:22- What boundaries should you put up while dating?
10:57- How to not compare your relationship to other Christian relationships?
12:29- Why would someone do premarital counseling? Is it helpful?
13:22- Is it okay if I expect support to be reciprocated and not one party fully supporting the other solely?
14:50- Can you spend too much time with your significant other?
15:19- How to discern confusion when dating someone who doesn’t have clear intentions?
16:28- How has your faith strengthened your relationship?
17:35- How to handle dating around and not finding someone who fits?
Bless you 🙂 Sadly life will teach you that you cant hide behind stories, but anyway… Being truthful to partner and what you expect from them is a nail in this clip 🙂
Chances of finding ‘the one’ = 7 billion to one. Chances of finding ‘the one’ who is the following: bible believing, pure, intelligent, educated, cultured, beautiful, funny = zero. Wow, my happiness on Christmas Eve is painfully low. Soul mates???? I spend more time with the squirrels in my garden! Michelle, you are beautiful though and articulate.
I’m sorry to say Michelle, but you are going to eternal hell. Your sin is vanity among others. God cannot save you anymore.
I love your sharing Michelle:) Thanks and God bless your marriage
"When the Dad comes to the door and says, ‘What are your intentions?’ You should be that person for yourself." ❤️❤️
liked after i heard the first sentence
How do I find the words to tell her….?
I’m in love with stacie’s brother…..
loved it keep it up congrats
I’m not Christian or religious at all but I appreciate this point of view and your advice because I am tired of hook up culture.
I agree with everything, except, ur opinion on not studying the Bible together and praying together!! I think it’s rather important for building ur relationship with God! We can do it for ourselves and for each other!! Thank you so much for sharing
Wow… I really love how you answered to the questions being asked, with the fundamental of what the word of God says. Because we ( evangelical Christians )need to live our life routine according to what the word of God says. God bless you.
So good Michelle!
Amen! Know the honeymoon phase will die, there are no "soul mates," and love is committing to the choice you’ve made!
Michelle i have a question about modesty from me, a 12yr old christian.
Can you wear a cropp top only showing about 3cm of skin or is that still a sin?
That’s a funny email. Every sermon I’ve been to about this topic stresses the man’s role and more often then not only the man’s role. We are called the knuckle heads, the undeserving etc. And that once we take the position we must love and by love I mean being permissive about everything without power to correct or to escape. One preacher said that quoting scripture to an abberent wife is abuse. Yet somehow we need to be spiritual leaders as well. Everything is on us yet in the modern church we have no agency. Everything and anything is our fault and if you go to counseling they will tell you to love more and man up. Right now I’m firmly in monk mode. I understand why the apostle Paul did what he did and said what he said. I can think of no reason to teather myself to another human being that would be of greater value than the kingdom of God. This video is spot on when you say marriage is not the be all end all.
I kind of find the being equally yoked scripture not only relevant to marriage partners but to actually friends…I also love what you said with regards to setting boundaries and making Jesus the center of your life and your spouse or significant other should contribute but not take the place of the Lord in one’s life…I so relate to this…I am writing a memoir which talks about my experience of idolizing a past boyfriend and also just sharing my life’s journey….thanks 4 sharing…I found you very inspirational….hope your life will continue to flourish
So very wise. Loved this video, especially when you discussed boundaries. Keep up the great work!
Am single and looking.am 35. Any single lady looking too?
Jesus is the light…
Put on your technicolour raincoat…
A brah him is in the j cub
So much wisdom in this video, the Holy Spirit so clearly speaks through you 🙂 Thank you for sharing
The biggest question is that if she has a high snap score
Hey so I’d like to share a little bit of my personal testemony. I am a Christian. I’ve grown up in a Christian home, but I was diagnosed with asperger’s syndrome, a form of high functioning autism. Throughout middle school and high school my special interest, as high functioning autists are known for, were vikings and their culture. They were my all time favorite warrior from ancient history because they were the ones I could relate to the most and setting my mind up like I was one of them proved to be quite useful when I played for my school’s football team. To this day, they still have special place in my heart, but I believe it comes with a cost. I believe my asperger’s and my passion for vikings made me into somewhat of a social outcast. Don’t get me wrong, I had friends growing up, but there weren’t a lot girls that were really interested in me. Not until I met my ex, who had a lot of issues. I wanted to commit to love as Christ loves me and use my love and my viking spirit to fight her demons. Unfortunately that failed and we broke up. I haven’t dated ever since. I’d like to date again and date in a God honoring way, but sometimes I see myself as this unlovable, Frankenstein monster that God created as a joke. I’m still working on fighting those thoughts with scripture and prayer.
I am new here and I love God!!
Why find "the one" when you can find many. Lol.
That sense of commitment is so important. That’s the sacrificial love of Christ: even after our constant rebellion and sin against him, he STILL was committed to us even though we never deserved it!
Thank you so much for doing this video!! I love this. I am on my celibacy journey and I couldn’t be happier. Always makes me so happy to watch these types of videos. I cannot wait to talk more about it on my channel as well. Keep up the hard and amazing work!! 🙂
Thank you so so much! That gave me so much strength in my current situation and those were exactly the right words that I needed. I will definitely read the book
If you are a Christian.
That’s the Worlds way
Courtship is closer to a Christian way.
1st get things in order.
Love Him, Love Yourself
If you DONT have those 2
DO NOT MOVE FORWARD.
Is God you Lord?
Do you know what that MEANS.
NOT just EMPTY WORDS.
The Worlds Terms again.
Do we " choose " how we live?
Or have we DIED to SELF.
We SURRENDER our life to God.
He PAID THE ULTIMATE PRICE IN LOVE.
DIED FOR YOU.
so He OWNS US.
if we believe and accept His Sacrifice.
Then its Christ who LIVES in US.
NOT US WHO LIVE.
He will PROVIDE ALL OUR NEEDS.
wants are ANOTHER THING.
Is USUALLY OUR FLESH.
Depend on God to MEET YOUR NEEDS.
Not a Spouse.
Primary NEEDS God provides
Secondary NEEDS spouse provides
ONLY what God CALLS FOR US TO MEET FOR OUR SPOUSE.
and vice versa.
God is Love and DEFINES LOVE.
act and be WHO God created you to be.
NOT ACT OR PERFORM TO
WIN who you WANT.
God DOESNT give you a spouse who is IDENTICAL to YOU.
if so YOU WOULD NEED THEM.
Different on purpose.
Would you listen to your friends on Having Heart Surgery
Or someone who is Educated and Skilled in the area you NEED.
As a teen I hated my parents.
I was Unplanned and Unloved in their
I DIDNT have God then.
I DID IT SO WRONG.
40 years later I look back at ALL THE WRECKAGE
And wish I had Loving, open
Transparent parents who actually LOVED ME.
I’m living it for ALL MANKIND.
God provided for him.
He Loves Joseph and He met his NEEDS.
What’s really scary are all of the "Christian" girls who are willing to have sex out of marriage… Saying that both Anal, and oral sex are not affecting their pure virginity.
The idolizing your significant other question is actually a good question, I never thought about it.
Although we are not sexual beings as was popularized you sweetheart sister need to watch pastor Mark Gungor’s "Laugh your way to a better marriage." You need to understand a guys love language
I was about to date a non-believer then I realized it isn’t worth it. My boundaries/moral beliefs doesn’t align with his. I’ll continually pray for a Godly guy and wait.