Christian Breakup Advice: When, Why, and How to Breakup in Christian Dating

Christian Breakup Advice: When, Why, and How to Breakup in Christian Dating

Is God telling you to breakup with your boyfriend or girlfriend? What are good reasons and bad reasons to end the Christian relationship? And if you do feel led by God to breakup, when and how should you do it?

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  1. Rila Nongrang on April 20, 2022 at 6:34 pm

    I recently broke up with a guy I love so much. We only dated for 2 months after which he left me coz I was too annoying to him and coz O brought out his worse that were his words. A year ago we tried to be together but during that time his ex texted and called me that he was lying to me so I stopped talking to him. With time we talked again since I was still in love with him. But he already patched up with his ex so I kept my distance. Few months back he said he broke up with his girlfriend n we got together. I was happy to be with him but at the same time I became insecure, mostly coz he still talked to his ex n was always so busy. We were always arguing. When he left me that night he got drunk he said he could’ve been the best guy for me but I never gave him a chance to fix things, he said that cz everytime we argued I called him back so soon to fix things n he never really got a chance to try to fix us, so he got annoyed. I don’t know what did I do so wrong that he left me. N his ex texted me that he’s been calling her, the exact same time we started having the big fight. The thought of him getting back to her hurts me.. Especially coz he knows I’ve always been insecure about her. I still love him n I miss him. He never really called me anymore after that. Some days I end up blaming myself n I’m really tempted to call him. I really need prayers.

  2. Bensic Miranda on April 20, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    There reasons for all things happened to our Life. God has a plan and purpose in your life.

    *Why God allows Breakups Relatonship?*
    Yo will praise God when you came to know the truth Why its happent to your life.
    A Biblical Answer from….

    Family Counselor ,
    Director : Institute of Christian counseling.


  3. Valerie on April 20, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    What if ur with someone that God confirmed that ur going to marry but the person isnt making u happy? There are more unhappy moments than happy moment with this person? You cant break up with that person bc God already told u that this is the one u will marry so what do u do in that situation?

  4. Joyal Sam on April 20, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    We are always on God’s way. But she broke up for I said to her, you have to know how to wearing because she posted wrong photos. Because it’s India. Anything will happen. I was try to protect her. I didn’t say don’t wear. But she is not understanding. What should I do?

  5. John Herrera on April 20, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    Sounds like your advocating recreational dating in a way to figure out find a spouse. Correct me if Im wrong

  6. Over Comer on April 20, 2022 at 6:39 pm

    I had a platonic female friend (I’m also female) who would never own her feelings and used the God told me to step away from you for your own growth card all the time. In the end we respect the other person far more if they own their feelings and don’t use God as a cop out

  7. Moshito on April 20, 2022 at 6:41 pm

    I love this video!

  8. FÉLIX on April 20, 2022 at 6:42 pm

    He’s a good guy, a God-fearing man but I just don’t enjoy being with him that much. I can spend a whole day, without even thinking about him once. Even though I am not busy, I can be bored the whole day, yet not think about him, not even once. That’s weird. He is supposed to be in my mind…naturally, but he’s almost never in my mind.

  9. Reina Virtucio on April 20, 2022 at 6:47 pm

    Rudy, you can talk to them freely but for me it needs miracle.then initiate a break up?

  10. Born Sinner on April 20, 2022 at 6:49 pm

    Thank you

  11. ThatHoodieGirl07 07 on April 20, 2022 at 6:49 pm

    What if you used to have a great relationship (at the very beginning) that glorified God and brought you closer to Him, but lately (within the last year) you feel like the relationship is dragging you down? Should you break up or fight for the relationship?

  12. S B on April 20, 2022 at 6:52 pm

    Breakups are sooo hard when you really care about the other person. why is that? It’s like if you break up with them you fear they will never be happy which is totally not true.

  13. Cliff Honest on April 20, 2022 at 6:52 pm

    Hi, greetings from Tanzania, thanks so much for your video its really helped me a lot. GOD bless you

  14. AspiringOO on April 20, 2022 at 6:54 pm

    Best video on YouTube.

  15. B Prathe on April 20, 2022 at 7:03 pm

    I’m 58 and just got the word from the woman I became best friends with. She always wanted marriage then when I leaned in she pulled the God cord. Maybe she’s afraid and confused. Whatever the case, I am 58 year old man, warrior spirit and crushed to the core. It has driven deeper on my knees with God. The struggle is I feel more drawn to pursue her, the more I pray! It’s driving me crazy. I didn’t want to hurry because I have failed marriages. Both walked away in adultery. Now she thinks it’s adultery to marry me after she read something from John Piper. I’ll get over it. Just putting mine out there for an example. She told me I’m her best friend too. Well isn’t that the type we want to marry? I have no desire to even look at another. I look down when even walking by. I don’t want eye contact. I pray my heart will not harden. I had major trust issues after giving my heart. I finally let go and pow!

  16. Kate Imm on April 20, 2022 at 7:05 pm

    Hi Mark, I’m kind of struggling with something right now. There’s this guy that I fell in love with, and we got into a relationship. But he broke it off because we weren’t focused on God and he didn’t feel like he was good enough for me. A lot has happened since then. So much that it’s made me doubt before that he even loved me a little bit when he claimed to love me more than anyone besides God. I’ve been hurt a lot, and because of that, my friends and family are VERY much against me and him happening again. However, he apologized a lot of things recently. And he said that.leaving me was one of the worst mistakes he has ever made. He said that he was scared and that’s why all of that happened. He says he still loves me and thinks I lead him closer to Christ. But I don’t know what to do. I’m scared and confused right now because I’ve grown a lot since we broke off, and I do not want to lose that. Please give advice if you can, even if it’s hard to hear.

  17. At Beauty's House on April 20, 2022 at 7:05 pm

    Thank you I needed to watch this video

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  19. Fabulous Bear on April 20, 2022 at 7:05 pm

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  21. Nwogu Benjamin on April 20, 2022 at 7:07 pm

    Some guys were like she lost attraction for me so that was why she lined up a replacement, i do believe that cos if someone truly loves you and wants to be in my life,they will make efforts for such to be accomplished

  22. Nwogu Benjamin on April 20, 2022 at 7:08 pm

    Pls mark,i now know she wasn’t meant for me,so how do i detach myself from her since we go to the same college and we live in the same block.

  23. Joanne on April 20, 2022 at 7:10 pm

    It was definitely difficult and heartbreaking at that moment but now I think that it was the best choice and I should have done it earlier lol. Praise the Lord ❤️ God is good and he is always right.

  24. Nwogu Benjamin on April 20, 2022 at 7:11 pm

    I was so nice to her,loved and respected her so much that sometimes i make God angry by spending more time with her than i spend with him. The worst is that she receives tons of gifts and money from this other guy(even before she broke up with me).

  25. Ladenna Young on April 20, 2022 at 7:11 pm

    Good advice thanks

  26. yesenia Gonzalez on April 20, 2022 at 7:12 pm

    I’ve been living with my boyfriend for 9 years but I just received Jesus in my heart, I have asked my bf to follow God or we need to part ways. He’s stuck in the world ways. He doesn’t love me I’ve been battling with Lyme disease and he has not been here for me. My anger takes over me because I don’t feel loved and protected. I’ve kicked him out so many times but he doesn’t leave because he’s comfortable not paying for bills.

  27. Wei-en Wang on April 20, 2022 at 7:13 pm

    Thank you so much for the video. It’s helped me a lot.

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  29. I am FRENCIS on April 20, 2022 at 7:14 pm

    Thank you for the free E-Book.. God Bless you

  30. Purple Moose on April 20, 2022 at 7:15 pm

    It’s not you . . . it’s God ! LOL I love that

  31. Philo0525 on April 20, 2022 at 7:15 pm

    What about if we have a little girl together but we are not married.
    I’m trying to fix it with God but I don’t know if he wants us together or not.
    I don’t feel happy because I hurt her because I’m fighting to be right with God.

  32. Max Faircloth on April 20, 2022 at 7:16 pm

    My fiance called off the engagement and the relationship because "God told me to." We were perfect together until I opened up about my past and about the addiction I had to porn years in the past. Like a good year before we dated I got out of it then I opened up just to tell her about me then she used this excuse " That’s cheating and you’re gonna keep doing it" She got so insecure about it and took it personally and used it against me. Then a year later or so she called off my engagement because of my past and God told her I’d keep doing it. I delt with lust but I got past it but she never saw that. I’m still stuck what should I do to move on? She blocked me on everything so I have no choice but to move on.

  33. Ashley G on April 20, 2022 at 7:16 pm

    Thank you for this video.

  34. diana abraham on April 20, 2022 at 7:19 pm

    I was a non believers when I got into a relationship and it’s true love now I’m a believer should I breakup with my boyfriend.

  35. Arjie Mark Maghanoy on April 20, 2022 at 7:19 pm

    Is it a sin to break up with your fiancee?

  36. Dot Sphere on April 20, 2022 at 7:25 pm

    I told him that I want to be in a Christ centered relationship and we’re not obedient. Is it hurtful?

  37. Judit Varga on April 20, 2022 at 7:26 pm

    My bf and I are dating for a year now. We both grew up in a christian family. Both of our father’s are pastors in different churches. Our parents have always been bestfriends, they’re in a close relationship. Before me and my bf started dating I struggled and prayed for more than a year, bc I didn’t know is he the right for me or not cause I had feelings for him.. and I knew that if we start dating and if we tell that to our parents than there is no turning back! Now, a year gone by and we are in a deep relationship, we even plan marrige, everything.. The only problem is that I keep seeing in his life that he doesn’t love God with his all heart. He knows that there is a God up above, he knows Jesus died for his sins, he believes, but in his life I don’t see that. He keeps trusting in himself, not in Hod, he is always worried about every single thing, he thinks men know more than God, and he loves me more than he loves Jesus. And I am praying for him for 3 years now, I started 2 years before we started dating till today, but it seems like he will never change. He himself said that “I don’t want to change. I don’t want to stop hating that thing or that person, I don’t want to be someone else…” I am crying every single day because I see him struggling in his own sins. He has SO MUCH hate in his heart. He can’t give up on being edgy ALL THE TIME. He won’t let me spend time with my friends. He won’t let me love my university, to love what I am studying. He won’t let me wear the clothes that I want. He won’t listen to me when I try to calm him. He won’t care about my opinion. When I talk about Got to him, he gets quiet and has nothing say, de never responds. When I tell him my experiences with God and when I tell him what was I reading in the bible today, he acts like I want to judge him with the words I’m saying. Because he thinks I want to show him how bad he is or something. I don’t kbow that to do. I know I can’t break up with him. I just can’t. Because of his family and mine also. I truly promised him I will never give up on him and love him and be with him and help him in everything. But every night I find myself crying and writing so so depressed things in my diary. What can I do? I struggle. He needs God more than me in his life. He needs Jesus. But whenever I tell this to him he gets angry. He thinks he only needs me. He thinks if I won’t love him, then no one ever will. He thinks if I leave him, he will be alone forever. I don’t know what to do. I truly try not to panic, but it’s so hard

  38. Roberto on April 20, 2022 at 7:27 pm

    I don’t want to pray to find my the one. After all that happens to me when my ex girlfriend left me for no good reason. I prayed for almost 3yrs to find my the one. Im aware to have a girlfriend becoz i want my first girlfriend be my first and last. And she told. Im the one that she pray to God but now she left and she told me. Let God and let God write your. I cried and never stop asking God why and how could this happen to me. Because of her i cant sing and focus on youth the becoz of my situation. I left my ministries and I dont want to come to church singing out of focus becoz of her. Correct me if i am wrong in my grammar. Im filipino

  39. Faith wright on April 20, 2022 at 7:28 pm

    I’m in a situation where my boyfriend goes to my very small church with a youth group of less than 10 people
    I don’t know how to deal with it and have tried several times to break up with him but chicken out every time I’m a senior and high school and feel that having a year left in youth group could be hard with an ex how should I break up with him I’ve almost done it over text to get it over but I feel bad every time and don’t send it

  40. Tim Lambert on April 20, 2022 at 7:30 pm

    How do I really know? Can I count confusion as a word from the Lord to end it?

  41. evelyn sommerville on April 20, 2022 at 7:30 pm

    My boyfriend just became a christain we have been dating for nine years and we are in our fifties I believe in God but he said out of the blue we are not eaqual yoked but he’s not looking for marriage this doesn’t make sense need advice?

  42. Nwogu Benjamin on April 20, 2022 at 7:32 pm

    I was never given the opportunity to see and speak to her parents cos she ssid it might just worsen the situation. Long story short,she is in a new relationship. My question is how do i forgive myself and move on cos i feel so betrayed and used and how do i forgive her cos whenever i remember the things she did,hatred slowly creeps into my heart.

  43. Tezne Jensel on April 20, 2022 at 7:32 pm

    Right on time!

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