"It's Only Hugging" | Boundaries In Christian Dating

‘”It’s Only Hugging” | Boundaries In Christian Dating’
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45 Comments

  1. Catherine Ninsiima on May 28, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    Thanks guys. Honestly hugs have a always confused me. This has made things clear

  2. Sophie on May 28, 2019 at 12:32 pm

    when he dabbed, i died inside.

  3. Laura on May 28, 2019 at 12:34 pm

    You guys r friendzoned, not dating

  4. Holly Ozioma on May 28, 2019 at 12:37 pm

    Thanks for sharing this you two. I pray many others arrive at the level of understanding and cherish God’s words so much that they don’t even give satan an opportunity. God bless you two and please be encouraged that many other young people share the same mindset as yourself. I thank God for the boldness and courage He gave you guys to make this video!

  5. SophieXSphynxKatz on May 28, 2019 at 12:39 pm

    Some Europeans kiss family members, children and friends when they say hello or goodbye. And it’s no way near considered sexual. My friends mum gives me tonnes of kisses when I meet her cause it’s just what you do. So why do the rules suddenly change in a romantic relationship?

    I don’t even consider some kissing in a romantic relationship sexual either cause sometimes you just gotta show a bit of affection ya know?

    I’m not tryna sound negative, I really like your videos and I’m a Christian but I grew up being taught that showing physical affectionate towards others (not in a sexual way) is important and how you show your love for them. But I do believe we should wait till marriage before sex.

  6. Kerby Martin on May 28, 2019 at 12:40 pm

    I understand that this is a temptation for some people. But this shouldn’t be an expected boundary. If you or ur partner are tempted then yes you should not do it but you shouldn’t set up such strict boundaries if they don’t cause you to stumble and if you and your partner have the self control to not let things lead down a certain path. Pleasure and sexual temptation aren’t the same thing. It’s okay to feel pleasure and satisfaction with someone’s presence. it’s all about being cautious and smart with the boundaries you have. I’m all for sharing what worked for you but until your partner feels tempted or thinks it might tempt them, you shouldn’t impose stuff like this. We can’t just avoid everything that could possibly eventually cause a temptation. Eventually we aren’t even going to allow high fives ahaha

  7. ansel alpha on May 28, 2019 at 12:41 pm

    Thankeww ….i recently started dating and i was so confused on what to do and what not to do…it was like even if i did something i was just consoling myself to like its okay… Thats not a big deal….. But now when i see your video…. This was something that i really needed to hear from someone… Thankeww

  8. Bianca Aletti on May 28, 2019 at 12:42 pm

    blink twice if you need help

  9. Elijah Fang on May 28, 2019 at 12:44 pm

    I’m gonna say it. I think they need to do more soul searching APART from each other before dating if they already sexualize hugging. YOU HUG YOUR MOM Paul, and she has boobs to. If it bothers you that much it’s a YOU problem, not Megan’s or anyone else’s.

  10. Delicia Abrahams on May 28, 2019 at 12:45 pm

    My husband and I were the same as you guys. Only difference is I was 38 and he was 40….. He set the boundaries and explained that he was honouring me by respecting me and my body… We made sure we were never alone. Once we’re got married, the intimacy was mind blowing because we have the rest of our lives to explore and not get enough of each other. It really is worth the wait…..

  11. SAKSHI SAGAR on May 28, 2019 at 12:45 pm

    U both are really lovely. I agree on whatever u say. Its really imp to not cross lines before marriage especially being Christians

  12. Supreme Leader Kylo Ren on May 28, 2019 at 12:45 pm

    Great video! It’s funny that you mentioned the whole "flee" thing, because I’ve been told that. You’re right. The immorality has to start somewhere and you’re helping with the awareness.

  13. Phoebe Wiersema on May 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    I kind of agree but not. Some men have the wrong motives for hugging. But! Some men are respectful, God loving , and just know boundaries. It depends on the person whether you should hug or not.

  14. Denise Green - Masson on May 28, 2019 at 12:51 pm

    Wonderful!! Stuff! Keep it up guys! I also took that stand over 15 years ago and was laughed at and thought of as weird. Those who opposed have either left the church or had kids outside of marriage. I am now married 12 yrs with two beautiful kids. My husband also believed in boundaries, they helped to keep us safe and pure before marriage. Keep preaching..

  15. Lucia De Melo on May 28, 2019 at 12:51 pm

    #couplegoals YOU TWO are the CUTEST! Thank you for all that you are doing in helping people stay faithful in Christ <3 GOD BLESS <3 🙂

  16. remolhdfc on May 28, 2019 at 12:54 pm

    Are you mad girl? Are you Christians guys? Go And preach Gospel for this is the end of end times..

  17. The Happy Elephant on May 28, 2019 at 12:56 pm

    I am a little bit late in seeing this video and commenting, but I read a lot of misunderstanding in the comments. THEY ARE NOT SAYING TO NOT HUG BUT TO BE CAREFUL because if you are attracted to someone both physically and emotionally it will be tempting to let the hug last longer than it should which can lead to all sorts temptations, especially for the guys. Guys aren’t wired like girls and cuddling and hugs hold a different significance. It’s not like either party went in with sinful intentions but temptations do occur even in innocent situations.

  18. Lily Rowland on May 28, 2019 at 12:57 pm

    a very different perspective. ive known a christian couple who decided to wait until marriage to kiss. they fell into more serious sexual sin because of the boundary they put up. obviously this won’t happen to everyone but i can’t imagine not hugging anyone! a lot of people express their love through physical touch and abstaining from hugging would make them feel alone and unloved. Every single christian is tempted. temptation is not a sin, acting on that temptation is. what worked for your relationship doesn’t have to be the standard for all christian relationships.

  19. Trash Can on May 28, 2019 at 12:57 pm

    ❤️

  20. debbie gee on May 28, 2019 at 12:57 pm

    Good video…..

  21. R Ellis on May 28, 2019 at 1:00 pm

    Man I feel so had for these bigots. Everything other than praising and glorifying God is a horrible and dirty sin that no one should ever do, it must be sad to live such a preprogrammed and unfun life believing the lie that you’re doing the right thing when in the end it never even matters

  22. Tanya Dixon on May 28, 2019 at 1:03 pm

    I just went and read all the other replies to this, and this shows why there is so much premarital sex among Christians, and why the church is such a poor, laughable example of morality and chasity to the world. When people are dating, or even casual friends, they don’t see hugging as a gateway for other things. Why wouldn’t you realize that when one nearly grown male body touches another nearly grown female body, and you are pressed up against each other as adults— we’re not talking about children hugging adults or the like, but teens; young adults male-female full frontal hugging. Stay in context, and stop trying to diffuse the point that they’re trying to make, okay?

    They’re talking about couples dating. They’re not talking about just saying hi to a friend and give me a quick hug or side hug no. That’s not what they’re talkin about; they’re talking about when you’re dating and the lady hugs the male or the male hugs the female; the hands will wander, the mind will wander, flesh is flesh. Give your emotional hormone-riven brain an inch, and it will take a mile. Stop believing that you’re so holy that you can’t be tempted, to the point that you criticize someone who actually has courage to admit that they have issues with controlling their sexual emotions and chooses to respect those emotions, by admitted a possibility of falling. ( Paul said make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill the lusts therof) I If you believe you’re beyond allowing them to rule you, then you need to go back to the Altar and repent for your hypocrisy, because brother;sister, you are the main people that he’s writing this post for. Amen

  23. Girl Behind the Red Door on May 28, 2019 at 1:04 pm

    Hugging for me actually is quite and personal and intimate thing but christians at church hug a lottttt and it’s made me more comfortable with friendly hugs but I don’t hug people I like like in a different way.

  24. Tony Gunk on May 28, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    What a twisted view of human connection. People like this procreate serial killers, devoid of human connection and emotion.

  25. Maci Claire on May 28, 2019 at 1:08 pm

    How is it a relationship if you can’t even hug. Honestly the way they put this is really weird. Hugging is a way to show love to each other. To me this is a little over the top but it’s there relationship so okaayyy???

  26. Tara Marshall on May 28, 2019 at 1:08 pm

    I think some people miss the point, maybe hugging isn’t the bad thing but the intentions behind hugging? I feel like it’s only their personal view from their personal experiences anyways, we don’t need to get all offended just because we don’t agree with someone, don’t take it so personally, I’m sure they’re not looking down on couples who hug outside of marriage, maybe they’re simply just looking out for the young ones..

  27. Miss Rhonda on May 28, 2019 at 1:09 pm

    Way to go, you two! Keep it up!

  28. Maris Ortiz on May 28, 2019 at 1:10 pm

    What i got from the video isn’t that hugging your partner is wrong, but that under certain conditions it could lead elsewhere (especially when dragged out too long or combined with kissing.) Not every guy is as virtuous as Paul… many will use an innocent hug as an opportunity to push boundaries. They’re just making people aware of that potential. Thanks for the vid!

  29. Angie on May 28, 2019 at 1:10 pm

    Thanks for this video. I don’t feel comfortable hugging anyone, it has to be someone especial for me. At the end is our body and we decide when and who we allow to cross that personal space.
    (Sorry for the grammar, not my first language)

  30. Paul Graves on May 28, 2019 at 1:11 pm

    I think the reason you guys got so much backlash is because she started by calling you conservative. Already starting off on the wrong foot. Don’t call it conservative. Call it disciplined or something else. People get the wrong idea from pooling someone in a category. The other thing is that I think it’s very important for you guys to address religion/pharisaical concepts. I saw a lot of people basically responding to this as "wow you think this it is a sin to hug?" Total misunderstanding by those people, but I think that is because there needs to be more emphasis on the fact that this is YOUR conviction. You guys definitely spoke about it as your conviction, but I think some people needed that uber reinforced to understand you guys are not holding the "law" over them, but a strong suggestion to remain sexually pure. Also maybe talking about how it all varies from person to person. Some people are definitely okay hugging. Some people’s stories it makes sense to be super cautious. Overall, this is some thought provoking content. I am a fan of the idea of setting up clear boundaries. Maybe not hugging as a boundary, but I did make a boundary for no physical contact with someone I was interested in once (like no hugs, holding hands kinda stuff). It really helped us set our eyes on Jesus first.

  31. Amanda on May 28, 2019 at 1:11 pm

    This has to be satire

  32. Tanya Dixon on May 28, 2019 at 1:14 pm

    You’re onto something…yes you are!

  33. Everybunnyloves Somebunny on May 28, 2019 at 1:15 pm

    Wow. I’m a christian. But you guys are just too much. No hugging? Kissing before marriage? So therefore you think your holier than someone who does?

  34. BUNGYBUNGYBOOCE on May 28, 2019 at 1:16 pm

    I think you guys are on to something but I also think hugging is ok so long as the man knows he is capable of cutting himself off at a certain point

  35. uche chijioke on May 28, 2019 at 1:17 pm

    You guys are crazily correct it gives me shivers omg.

  36. Evelyne Saintbien on May 28, 2019 at 1:18 pm

    Amen

  37. Marina Amador on May 28, 2019 at 1:22 pm

    This is great! Most people are missing the point. It’s not that every action can lead to sex or that your “over sexualizing” a hug but it’s the path of purity the Bible (& God) would have us to take if we are in a relationship, also it would be naive to completely disqualify that a hug could lead to other things, maybe not sex but other things that you maybe didn’t want to do.

  38. Miss Rhonda on May 28, 2019 at 1:24 pm

    It starts somewhere. You know yourself and you have to respect that the other person knows himself. How badly do you want to get it right? How badly do you want to please the LORD?

  39. Fire from heaven ministries on May 28, 2019 at 1:25 pm

    Completely agreed. Completely conservative. I’m the same.

  40. Faith Muthoni on May 28, 2019 at 1:25 pm

    Woooow …this is so encouraging to realize there are men who save themselves for marriage…I totally agree with the hugging bit where your boobs* press onto your boyfriend’s chest and we expect them not to feel anything at all

  41. JESUS loves you on May 28, 2019 at 1:27 pm

    Is it okay to have strippers and Bachelor parties before you get married as Christians

  42. Suavis Milsten on May 28, 2019 at 1:27 pm

    Give Satan a centimeter he takes you all the way to pornography. I testify that hugging is not okay for believars. Satan does not have our beliefs so he wants us to sin. I testify that one innocent leads to another innocent leads to worse then worse then next thing I knew I was NOT in Christ. I dont agree believars should hug a guy they like.

  43. María Salazar on May 28, 2019 at 1:28 pm

    I agree with you guys! Of cooourse is not about not hugging at all but I got the point, and I support that boundary too!

  44. Kyla Grace on May 28, 2019 at 1:29 pm

    Some people clearly don’t understand that this is personal and usually varies depending on the personalities of those in the relationship, their love language, personal comfort level and largely on culture or upbringing. If you think it’s "too far", then do your own thing as long as you maintain purity. For those of you that feel like hugs or whatever WILL lead to temptation for YOU, be responsible and refrain from any tempting behaviour. I will be doing so and I appreciated this video and the commitment of this couple to purity.

  45. Derek Andrews on May 28, 2019 at 1:29 pm

    This is definitely nuts guys. Most super happy couples I know waited for sex but they definitely did other things including hugging prior to marriage. GOODNESS. HUGGING. SUCH LUST. I’M SUCH A BACKSLIDING SINNER CAUSE I HUGGED A GIRL I LIKE

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