How To Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive
How To Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive
Being defensive comes to us very naturally and can validate accusation. Is there a right way to take criticism? Fortunately, there are ways to overcome it.
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To whom eaver is reading this comment you are on ther right path and I hope nextime when you face criticicim you learn from it rather than reacting emotonally (I still diss agree with the video becuse the diffanition of cridicicm is the analacys and judgment of fults of a certian subject not an opinion )
What if someone when criticize raise their voice?
"Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth."
– Marcus Aurelius.
"True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing"
–Socrates.
"Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools"
– Ecclesiastes.
“know yourself and you will win all battles”
– Sun Tzu.
"There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self."
– Henri Frederic Amiel.
Thank you
How do I help my child who does not like criticism?
I was expecting to learn how to handle fair criticism that is absolutely valid without getting my ego crushed… well this is not video
This is great information
Love that! Their experience of you/me
I’m not gonna be defensive thank you for your feed back
I love this video, thanks for highlighting the defensiveness part
In my eyes defensiveness is an automatic human reaction. If it touched a soft spot, then we defend ourselves for that, if not true, then for that we defend ourselves 🙂 We have to be very present to not involve ourselves if it’s not true. Criticism: If someone throw at you a dirty shirt and it’s not yours, don’t pick it up:) I have a lot to work on myself in this sense…
Let’s remind ourselves of the meaning of criticism: ‘the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes.’
Note the word perceived.
Criticism can either be fair or unfair. It can be constructive or unconstructive.
Fair and constructive criticism should obviously be taken on board.
Unfair and unconstructive criticism shouldn’t.
As a musician. I don’t give feed criticism unless I think you’re talented and you can do better some things better. I’m not the music critic without musical back. If I’m criticizing and I say you can do this really well, needs work on, and you do this really poorly and you really need to work on this. I’m never malicious and I think you’re talented and you can just improve on some things, but you’re talented to me. I don’t bother giving criticism to people who aren’t talented because it’s a waste off time.
Sounds nice but this is not so eazy when we are in happening zone of criticizm.
Thank you❤
I’m a videographer and I always have to send my videos to get reviewed by the client. I put my heart and soul into my work so when I get,what I now know as “feedback”, I get all worked up bc I know how much time and effort I put into a video to make it perfect to present. And in my mind it’s as perfect as it can be so when I get feedback of how it could be different I always take it as criticism even though I know that it’s not. This video really has helped me to understand how to process feedback for work so at the end of the day I have healthy customer relationships to keep my business going. Thank you!
I’m sensitive
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It depends, if someone calls you lazy and your not of course your gonna mad and defensive
Defensiveness = Guilt is the French style of justice. This is America, and defensiveness could mean innocence. When the police pull me over, I will be defensive. Nice, pleasant ‘how are you sir’? But I did not do it.
I dont think an opinion always says something about ourselves.
Thats a perfect way to deflect any sincere feedback you receive and keep yourself from growing.
If I go to a restaurant and the food is tasteless then you can say that that is my opinion, or you consider it to be true, check your food and if it is true you take this opportunity to improve your spicing.
7:45 "Criticism can be simply redefined as feedback." But I have some sneaky feeling that it will piss off those who were hoping it would hurt us. And that’s a good thing! I’m not trying to hurt them, but if they want to be hurt by it, that’s THEIR problem now
This is life changing. Thank you!
I have always taken things personally and have been tryong to interpret things less defensively. This is affirming and so hepful.
Thank you!
3:57–"Let’s say someone tells you ‘You’re so sensitive’ AS IF that’s a BAD thing!" Talk about flipping the script!! Great video
Me: (criticized or disagrees with a song they wrote with my own honest opinion, without actual hate, especially when I did research & read lyrics)
Song writer’s fans: (cancel cultured me & tells me to check my privilege)
What if they say it is a fact when it’s still not true and they run with it becuase the other person feels hurt by it becuase whether they try to defend themselves or not and getting offended and then gets shut out and feel like they have no voice becuase they feel like they can’t even win for losing and either way they lose regardless…
Defensiveness validates accusation = subscribed
Thank you for your feedback
*sends this to my mom*
This is a really great video!
This is so liberating!
I used to be very defensive. Unaware I was giving them the power to be in control I doubt if there’s anyone who ever got this type of Criticism Constant surveillance with every move you make. I came to realize it’s sickness bro there are not okay like seriously every time I type on my phone, whatever I wear, wherever I go . I’m holding my phone mind you.
This is reality I’m not joking.
It validates the accusation in the minds of stubborn assholes who already have made up thier minds about you anyway. So what if we apply this to a court of law. What if there was no defense, now you only have accusers? Ok
Thank you. This has been the best advice for helping me release my anger and a pathway to being more emotionally intelligent
What a nice teaching!!!
My friends, family, colleagues and employers know that if they criticise me I’ll give them a mouthful…so they no longer bother.
I needed to hear this right now
This was extremely helpful for me, i truly appreciate this!
This video helped so much!