How To Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive

How To Take Criticism Without Getting Defensive

Being defensive comes to us very naturally and can validate accusation. Is there a right way to take criticism? Fortunately, there are ways to overcome it.

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40 Comments

  1. @nickdean1419 on August 5, 2025 at 11:53 pm

    wow

  2. @creativecook124 on August 5, 2025 at 11:59 pm

    To whom eaver is reading this comment you are on ther right path and I hope nextime when you face criticicim you learn from it rather than reacting emotonally (I still diss agree with the video becuse the diffanition of cridicicm is the analacys and judgment of fults of a certian subject not an opinion )

  3. @AnaDragnescu on August 6, 2025 at 12:01 am

    What if someone when criticize raise their voice?

  4. @Uriel-Septim. on August 6, 2025 at 12:02 am

    "Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact. Everything we see is a perspective, not the truth."
    – Marcus Aurelius.

    "True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing"
    –Socrates.

    "Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools"
    – Ecclesiastes.

    “know yourself and you will win all battles”
    – Sun Tzu.

    "There is no respect for others without humility in one’s self."
    – Henri Frederic Amiel.

  5. @venzy215 on August 6, 2025 at 12:02 am

    Thank you

  6. @lizetteani8804 on August 6, 2025 at 12:02 am

    How do I help my child who does not like criticism?

  7. @Ateszika on August 6, 2025 at 12:04 am

    I was expecting to learn how to handle fair criticism that is absolutely valid without getting my ego crushed… well this is not video

  8. @bridgetmusoki2092 on August 6, 2025 at 12:05 am

    This is great information

  9. @versatile3169 on August 6, 2025 at 12:08 am

    Love that! Their experience of you/me

  10. @Buddy-s6o on August 6, 2025 at 12:09 am

    I’m not gonna be defensive thank you for your feed back

  11. @PatisaNombakuseITAuditMentor on August 6, 2025 at 12:10 am

    I love this video, thanks for highlighting the defensiveness part

  12. @csokorviolet on August 6, 2025 at 12:14 am

    In my eyes defensiveness is an automatic human reaction. If it touched a soft spot, then we defend ourselves for that, if not true, then for that we defend ourselves 🙂 We have to be very present to not involve ourselves if it’s not true. Criticism: If someone throw at you a dirty shirt and it’s not yours, don’t pick it up:) I have a lot to work on myself in this sense…

  13. @pippipster6767 on August 6, 2025 at 12:15 am

    Let’s remind ourselves of the meaning of criticism: ‘the expression of disapproval of someone or something on the basis of perceived faults or mistakes.’
    Note the word perceived.
    Criticism can either be fair or unfair. It can be constructive or unconstructive.
    Fair and constructive criticism should obviously be taken on board.
    Unfair and unconstructive criticism shouldn’t.

  14. @Skoopyghost on August 6, 2025 at 12:15 am

    As a musician. I don’t give feed criticism unless I think you’re talented and you can do better some things better. I’m not the music critic without musical back. If I’m criticizing and I say you can do this really well, needs work on, and you do this really poorly and you really need to work on this. I’m never malicious and I think you’re talented and you can just improve on some things, but you’re talented to me. I don’t bother giving criticism to people who aren’t talented because it’s a waste off time.

  15. @lilabukvic3257 on August 6, 2025 at 12:16 am

    Sounds nice but this is not so eazy when we are in happening zone of criticizm.
    Thank you❤

  16. @destini573 on August 6, 2025 at 12:18 am

    I’m a videographer and I always have to send my videos to get reviewed by the client. I put my heart and soul into my work so when I get,what I now know as “feedback”, I get all worked up bc I know how much time and effort I put into a video to make it perfect to present. And in my mind it’s as perfect as it can be so when I get feedback of how it could be different I always take it as criticism even though I know that it’s not. This video really has helped me to understand how to process feedback for work so at the end of the day I have healthy customer relationships to keep my business going. Thank you!

  17. @shaniquawhipple6413 on August 6, 2025 at 12:22 am

    I’m sensitive

  18. @basharDodeen on August 6, 2025 at 12:24 am

  19. @TheKrumster on August 6, 2025 at 12:25 am

    It depends, if someone calls you lazy and your not of course your gonna mad and defensive

  20. @mikeflair6800 on August 6, 2025 at 12:26 am

    Defensiveness = Guilt is the French style of justice. This is America, and defensiveness could mean innocence. When the police pull me over, I will be defensive. Nice, pleasant ‘how are you sir’? But I did not do it.

  21. @zion367 on August 6, 2025 at 12:27 am

    I dont think an opinion always says something about ourselves.
    Thats a perfect way to deflect any sincere feedback you receive and keep yourself from growing.

    If I go to a restaurant and the food is tasteless then you can say that that is my opinion, or you consider it to be true, check your food and if it is true you take this opportunity to improve your spicing.

  22. @AZDC99 on August 6, 2025 at 12:29 am

    7:45 "Criticism can be simply redefined as feedback." But I have some sneaky feeling that it will piss off those who were hoping it would hurt us. And that’s a good thing! I’m not trying to hurt them, but if they want to be hurt by it, that’s THEIR problem now

  23. @elliejamison5884 on August 6, 2025 at 12:29 am

    This is life changing. Thank you!

  24. @yc8371 on August 6, 2025 at 12:33 am

    I have always taken things personally and have been tryong to interpret things less defensively. This is affirming and so hepful.
    Thank you!

  25. @AZDC99 on August 6, 2025 at 12:37 am

    3:57–"Let’s say someone tells you ‘You’re so sensitive’ AS IF that’s a BAD thing!" Talk about flipping the script!! Great video

  26. @cromaxthedarkangelglumiith5659 on August 6, 2025 at 12:38 am

    Me: (criticized or disagrees with a song they wrote with my own honest opinion, without actual hate, especially when I did research & read lyrics)
    Song writer’s fans: (cancel cultured me & tells me to check my privilege)

  27. @jasmynamore8759 on August 6, 2025 at 12:40 am

    What if they say it is a fact when it’s still not true and they run with it becuase the other person feels hurt by it becuase whether they try to defend themselves or not and getting offended and then gets shut out and feel like they have no voice becuase they feel like they can’t even win for losing and either way they lose regardless…

  28. @emanuel_soundtrack on August 6, 2025 at 12:40 am

    Defensiveness validates accusation = subscribed

  29. @Politico254 on August 6, 2025 at 12:40 am

    Thank you for your feedback

  30. @mosstheft on August 6, 2025 at 12:41 am

    *sends this to my mom*

  31. @irinarakovicprivatepractice on August 6, 2025 at 12:41 am

    This is a really great video!

  32. @paulgaikwad9322 on August 6, 2025 at 12:44 am

    This is so liberating!

  33. @luyolompembela175 on August 6, 2025 at 12:45 am

    I used to be very defensive. Unaware I was giving them the power to be in control I doubt if there’s anyone who ever got this type of Criticism Constant surveillance with every move you make. I came to realize it’s sickness bro there are not okay like seriously every time I type on my phone, whatever I wear, wherever I go . I’m holding my phone mind you.
    This is reality I’m not joking.

  34. @JosephIrvin-pm4cr on August 6, 2025 at 12:45 am

    It validates the accusation in the minds of stubborn assholes who already have made up thier minds about you anyway. So what if we apply this to a court of law. What if there was no defense, now you only have accusers? Ok

  35. @sanolarah on August 6, 2025 at 12:46 am

    Thank you. This has been the best advice for helping me release my anger and a pathway to being more emotionally intelligent

  36. @LGOHE.HEBREWS13.8 on August 6, 2025 at 12:50 am

    What a nice teaching!!!

  37. @peterreed9566 on August 6, 2025 at 12:50 am

    My friends, family, colleagues and employers know that if they criticise me I’ll give them a mouthful…so they no longer bother.

  38. @Bariatricmomma2002 on August 6, 2025 at 12:50 am

    I needed to hear this right now

  39. @deedee777 on August 6, 2025 at 12:52 am

    This was extremely helpful for me, i truly appreciate this!

  40. @reneewilson7218 on August 6, 2025 at 12:52 am

    This video helped so much!

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