Christian Modesty and Women's Clothing: What Does the Bible Actually Say?

Christian Modesty and Women's Clothing: What Does the Bible Actually Say?

What should a Christian woman wear? Is she responsible for a man’s eyes? What has the church gotten wrong about Christian women and modesty?

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42 Comments

  1. A. on April 13, 2022 at 5:56 pm

    I just watched a video about what women should wear and she made a point that in the Bible days, men & Women wore dresses, so this Mae me really want to look deeper into what pats were back the???

  2. R Francis Fawkes on April 13, 2022 at 5:57 pm

    HOW SHOULD A CHRISTIAN WOMAN DRESS?

    You may have noticed that popular musical entertainers dress in quite revealing attire. Female classical musicians also do the same. I have noticed it in their competitions and recitals.

    God, however, has a standard of dress for His people that is to be separated and apart from this world (2 Corinthians 6: 17). Jesus is coming for a sanctified people (Ephesians 5: 27).

    His word states: "In like manner also that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety…" (1 Timothy 2: 9).

    The human body is a temple of the Holy Spirit and it belongs to God its creator. He has legal rights to it, and His copyright to His creation must be respected.

    Read: 1 Corinthians 6: 17 which reflects God position on the body" "What? Know ye not that you body is the Temple of the Holy Spirit in you, whom you have from God? And you are not your own."106, 713

  3. Champa Putih on April 13, 2022 at 5:59 pm

    I’m in the Buddhism country, In their oppinions Europe or Christians are spread the bad ideas to their cultures. But I finally understand that most of European sometimes are irreligion who once was deeply influenced by Christinity.

  4. Damsel_In_This_Dress on April 13, 2022 at 6:00 pm

    I need to talk about point 4: this vid explains it OK , but I feel that for many years, the Church has sent this message to women (and men) about modesty that has been distressing, problematic, unhealthy, unhelpful, and damaging. Women were identified as purely sexual temptations, and men were nothing more than these crazed, potentially lust-fuelled maniacs who could lose control and grapple you to the floor if you showed an inch of skin. It was so dehumanizing to both genders and caused so much unnecessary shame, fear and confusion. Basically, by advising women to cover up, and implying they were responsible for men’s actions, the Church inadvertently objectified women and their bodies. It was sort of like saying: ‘If you don’t want to be attacked or raped, then you shouldn’t wear that skirt/top/dress.’ There is a disturbing link between the ‘modesty movement’ and rape culture in the sense that the woman would be to blame if she was assaulted wearing a miniskirt or some other form of ‘immodest’ or immoral clothing. I live in midi dresses and ankle boots, but I only wear them because that’s what I feel happiest in. I’m not walking around, living in fear that if I accidentally reveal a bit of leg or a shoulder, then that will cause a man to have lustful thoughts, and I think it would be exhausting and horrible if I was. I would certainly hate to feel that I had to ‘police’ my clothing or that I had to look unattractive because that was the ‘right’ thing for me to do.
    I get that this vid addresses women and men on this topic, but men are not held to the same standard as women. Men are not looking critically at their clothing, wondering ‘Is the neckline on this shirt too low? What about these shorts?’ For years, books and speakers placed the responsibility entirely on women’s shoulders. Perhaps there’s been a move away from that, but I’ve read comments here from women who are say they ‘don’t want to cause a brother in Christ to stumble’. Girl, you are not responsible for his thoughts. I get that your clothing is an expression of your inner self and all that, and your body should honour God and so forth, but the thing about this ‘modesty dressing’ is…there’s no clear-cut definition of what modest clothing looks like, and it tends to mean different things to different people. For example, what about skirt lengths? While one that ended just south of your rear would definitely be out, would one that was above the knee be OK? Or is that still too short? Are bardot tops (that are off the shoulder) showing too much skin, and if they are, why is showing a bit of shoulder worse than showing, say, an arm or a knee? What about long skirts that are slit part-way up the leg? You could obsess over every single thing you wore each day. The purity movement/conservative evangelical church literally took one verse from the Bible and then created an entire ideology/subculture around it, when the Bible actually doesn’t give a dress-code on what women should wear.
    Most adult women would know if a garment was inappropriate or not, while some teen girls and women in their early 20s are still highly influenced by celebrities and what they see on social media. They will make mistakes, but that is what growing up is all about. Style isn’t something you’re born with, it evolves with time. The clothes you liked to wear as a a teen probably won’t be what you would want to wear in your mid-20s, and what you wore in your mid-20s probably won’t be what you’ll be wearing in your late 30s. Instead of feeling like we have to subscribe to an ‘ideal’, or a list of rules, or feeling like we should drape ourselves in a blanket whenever we’re around other men, wouldn’t it be great if we could just, I don’t know, be free to be ourselves?

  5. Jose H on April 13, 2022 at 6:01 pm

    I had to see this and show my wife because I like going to the gym but it looks like a strip club now. So I told my wife her modesty is Godly and I see no one especially for example the stripper looking workout women at the gym.

  6. Vivi on April 13, 2022 at 6:02 pm

    Thank you for this! I love how you said "If you are questioning if you’re showing too much then you’re probably showing too much" that was me some weeks ago. I was gonna put on these ripped Jean’s I used to love! But the holes showed a lot of my thighs! At first I was like maybe I should put this on! I put it on and automatically got convicted. Took it off and threw it out!

  7. King Kasdin on April 13, 2022 at 6:03 pm

    This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfil the lust of the flesh.

    17 For the flesh lusteth against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh: and these are contrary the one to the other: so that ye cannot do the things that ye would.

    18 But if ye be led of the Spirit, ye are not under the law.

  8. Reniah on April 13, 2022 at 6:07 pm

    Modesty in women is God’s standard 1Tim2:8-10

  9. TaShaundra Clark on April 13, 2022 at 6:08 pm

    Look at Linda Rika YouTube testimony. Six hours in hell two hours in Heaven. Three preachers eligible for Heaven out of five million people. Never changed pants on women. Lord is it you in the dream? Lord am I eligible for Heaven? Perfume makeup pants or jewelry kept women from Heaven. They are lying. He’s a living God.

  10. Erik G Ortega on April 13, 2022 at 6:11 pm

    Christian is not Gods instruction or not? What’s Gods people? Does the Word Christian appear in His name wholesome?
    The Christ
    Of Nazareth
    Is Jesus
    Give me the verse that states God calls you a Christian that belongs to His people’s inheritance? Does it grandfather in or we once were lost now found? How does lost argue?

  11. A. on April 13, 2022 at 6:12 pm

    A lot of people use the verse in Duetoronomy if I’m not mistaken to justify why a woman shouldn’t wear pants! There’s going to probably be woman in dresses in hell too

  12. Caitlyn Dixon on April 13, 2022 at 6:15 pm

    1000x yes, thank you for this.

  13. A Allen on April 13, 2022 at 6:18 pm

    I recall the bible saying "the thigh is a sign of nakedness". Doesnt that still apply to today? But most women including Christian women as myself seem to disregard it. Is it a sin to do so?

  14. Loida Tanjista on April 13, 2022 at 6:18 pm

    Very well explained, can I share the video to our fellow women in our church????!

  15. Ashley Perez on April 13, 2022 at 6:19 pm

    So tell me it’s not a contradiction how he stated around 3:24 how the Bible “doesn’t say” not to braid your hair but previously gives the scripture of 1Tim…

    1 Timothy 2:9

    9 In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array;

    Idk if it was by accident but don’t be deceived. Lets read for ourselves and speak to God for correction and acceptance of it!

  16. star angel on April 13, 2022 at 6:19 pm

    A woman Should not wear makeup pants Polish her nails Fake nails Wear fake Hair also should not braid har hair Putting color in there hair jewelry Nicholas earrings tattoos Foundation No leggings No Wearing high heels No wearing ring on your toes Or your fingers unless you’re married If you wear a dress it has to be passed the knee If you wear a skirt it has to pass the knee Also you cannot Do your eyebrows Stay simple the way Jesus Christ made us Everything in this world is vanity when Jesus Christ come to pick up his children everything in this world that we cared about is going to be destroyed so why care About vanity Don’t let anything in this world stop you from going to heavenAlways pray and read your Bible and stay focused on the Word of God Before someone say something always go to God For answers he will lead you In the good Path Always remember the gates is narrow so it is not easy to get to heaven it’s not about about just only believing in God but you have to walk in his word God said If you love him you will follow his commandments

  17. T J on April 13, 2022 at 6:21 pm

    I dunno man. I used to follow the Scripture about not braiding your hair and I took it as not to dress up because you will distract men from worshipping God, so I never used to look nice for that reason. But I also got overlooked a lot and sometimes people mistook me for a homeless person because of how I used used to dress. Now I just wear what I want, which does not involve showing skin, but it still drives men wild. Even secular men. I honestly think that men appreciate modesty with class, not frumpy modesty. Like nice, quality, fitting clothing that shows your shape and style. Men still have to see you as sexy to want to date you. In my opinion, you have to show a little sex appeal if you want to attract a mate. Don’t be a plain Jane all your life. You do not have to show it all or have cleavage bursting out of your top or your bum hanging out in booty shorts to attract a man. Just keep it classy and chic.

  18. Kristin A on April 13, 2022 at 6:24 pm

    This vid makes it seem like modest dress is some vague concept for which we don’t have hard and fast rules, but the Bible does explicitly outline which items of clothing are and are not acceptable.

    Shoulders to thighs must be covered (Genesis 3, Exodus 28:42)
    Sex-specific attire (Deut 22:5).

    Those few verses explicitly outline what is and isn’t Biblically acceptable.

  19. Verdad on April 13, 2022 at 6:25 pm

    I believe I can say a comment of what I believe. Now a days we have summer that hotter than in the past and winter colder. Older woman and all woman should be dressing how they feel comfortable and modest. I wear no leggings, no skinny jeans, shirts that are bottom up, no jewelry, no make up, i do use skin care and serve the Lord. I don’t wear pants to go to chutch. I understand about the woman’s veil. I wear pants that made for woman and I get styles that are modest. Getting in and out of a car or bus is something I don’t have to do with worry that something of my skin will show because the pants I use covers.

  20. Keisha Tanoe on April 13, 2022 at 6:30 pm

    But I dont think it’s fair because some men dont dress nicely as in they take their shirts off and it kind if attracts us. So is that a sin? Or is it a sin only to women?

  21. Muhammad Hassan on April 13, 2022 at 6:32 pm

    I’m Muslim But I study all religion For knowledge Alhamdulilah I have good knowledge about all world’s religions

  22. Cory C on April 13, 2022 at 6:33 pm

    People like to pretend that all clothing is the same

  23. Jacqueline Smith-Gaston on April 13, 2022 at 6:33 pm

    Great video. You broke the word down in the correct way. You can be SAVED and STILL look nice…modest. You don’t have to walk around looking"homely AND homeless". Thank you for bringing out THE TRUTH.

  24. IchiniHQ on April 13, 2022 at 6:35 pm

    Im not christian but its interesting learning about other religions!

  25. Chasing Calmness on April 13, 2022 at 6:35 pm

    Phenomenal video sir, thank you for the unbiased, Biblical perspective on this topic. Very well spoken and direct. God bless!

  26. Starhunter on April 13, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    *The idea of "modesty" is a joke. God created us to be fully nude with NO SHAME and it was only when we started playing our own game that we started viewing our bodies as disgraceful. 99% of clothing has nothing to do with trying to be sexy, it’s just the individual wearing what makes them comfortable. Clothing doesn’t influence bad actions, character does.*

  27. Hannah on April 13, 2022 at 6:36 pm

    I agree with everything said but will say that choosing to dress modest so we don’t make a brother/sister sexually stumble is not a bad thing. Stumbling doesn’t mean the act is willing..like for example: a teenage boy who is going through puberty has a really hard time controlling his sexuality. As a baby Christian, if he is surrounded by women who are flaunting their bodies he is going to have an extremely hard fight against him that he might not be strong enough to fight alone and will need support. So being surrounded by strong Christian men and Christian women who are guarding their bodies from his mind while he grows in Christ is a good thing. We should show care for others in our actions. Just like how an addict doesn’t need to be around other addicts, it’s good to note that sexual sin is a HUGE thing and a very easy trap to fall into..so we should be mindful of others.

    Of course, everyone needs to take responsibility for their actions..so us women should take responsibility for how we present ourselves.

    (Also note, a lot of girls especially now a days are struggling with homosexuality temptations..let’s not feed that either and be a safe space for our family in Christ).

  28. EA.Charles on April 13, 2022 at 6:37 pm

    No one is talking about frumpiness as you put it, but are things like bikinis, skin tight form/body revealing clothing, even make-up really necessary?

  29. Jesus Saves on April 13, 2022 at 6:37 pm

    Can a Woman Go to Church Showing her Cleavage, and her Panty lines.

  30. Kathy Waddell on April 13, 2022 at 6:38 pm

    Keep your breasts covered keep your butt covered dont wear shorts to Church. Dont wear cloths so tight that it leaves nothing to the imagination. Dont wear your dress so short when you go to the alter to pray that the Congeration is embarrassed to look at you because they can see your underwear, they look up at the ceiling. This is not a Godly woman! sorry. The pastors are responsible for what goes on in the house of God. Their should be rules for what’s acceptable in the house of God men women and young adults should have a dress code! Dress nice but cover your bodies! If you look like the world how can you be changed inside if you have no shame before God.

  31. Wölfenstein on April 13, 2022 at 6:39 pm

    Is it a sin to wear a military cap if you’re a woman? I have two German military caps but I really stopped wearing them because the Bible says for a woman to not wear a man’s garment

  32. Peace Zeme on April 13, 2022 at 6:41 pm

    Thank you so much for such a meaning message. I feel too it’s not right for a Christian to say "wear anything you want or eat anything you want". Appreciate it.

  33. Rickey Young Linda Rika on April 13, 2022 at 6:41 pm

    Look at Linda Rika YouTube testimony. Six hours in hell two hours in Heaven. Three preachers eligible for Heaven out of five million people. Read Matthew 22:11-13 clothing only keeps a man from Heaven. Many cannot read. Ask God. Lord is it you in the dream? Lord am I eligible for Heaven? Many lying.

  34. ACTUAL on April 13, 2022 at 6:41 pm

    Great video bro!!!! Uh explained it soooo and accurately …true words! Praise God

  35. teresa arvidson on April 13, 2022 at 6:42 pm

    thank you for these videos! I am in torment these days on what is modest vs. provocative. Having a deep ingrained belief that dressing in loose clothing, long skirts etc., all the time, means, frumpiness, fat, that im ashamed of what i look like, I just cannot stand certain clothing! On the other hand, everyone (ladies) at my church wears this type of clothing..it may be ok to them, but its just not me. i feel awfull dressed like this, tho’ I want to honor my Lord in every thing I do, including my dress. What I feel is acceptable doesn’t seem to mirror what the church deems acceptable. I am desperately trying to find that place where I fit in, and still feel ok.

  36. ian iskandar on April 13, 2022 at 6:44 pm

    how about man use like pomade thing to have a clean look appearence.. is it ok? the bible say about the elaborate hairstyles which is wrong?

  37. John doe on April 13, 2022 at 6:46 pm

    She shouldn’t dress at all God made us naked so that’s how he wants you to be . When you wear clothes your covering his temple . Satan made clothes and makeup and possessions to distract you from what God wants

  38. Amatsu Kami Mikaboshi on April 13, 2022 at 6:46 pm

    Bible says women are the property of their fathers and later by their husbands.

    So I wouldn’t really put stock on the bible on anything about woman, race equality and etc

  39. Moving to Greener Grass on April 13, 2022 at 6:47 pm

    I heard testimonies were women were sent to hell for wearing dresses and skirts above the ankles.

    And people of both genders in hell for wearing shortsleeve Tees.

  40. Roses Are In Love With Christ on April 13, 2022 at 6:49 pm

    THANK you so much! This is definitely a blessing from the Lord Bc I was curious if I could braid my hair or not . I kept on praying to make it clear to me. Since I’m a black girl braiding my hair protect my hair and it helps a bit to grow my natural hair.

  41. Sarah Holt on April 13, 2022 at 6:52 pm

    Dress in a way that defends your brother in Christ soul. It starts with the eye. Dont be offense onto the eye. If the eye offends you RIP it out. If you have looked upon a women with lust you have already commited it in your heart. Be a daughter of Christ

  42. Ms Humavindu on April 13, 2022 at 6:54 pm

    This is well explained…

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