How to Be a REAL Friend
There is a difference between being polite, and being genuinely friendly. In this video we will discuss how every Christian should act towards each other.
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I recognize that Im not a good friend at all and I really want to become a better person. So if you are not very busy, could you please pray for me?
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I just can’t do that anymore…. I lost that kind of feelings because I’ve been around people who are toxic and naracasstic as well as manipulators.
It’s hard for me to be around these people. I can sense their evil intentions. Clearly I can’t be friends with these kind of people. Any suggestions to these kinds of relationships.
One thing for sure, if it’s naracasstic, block all contact from being reached.
Don’t be ashamed to say no. If you guys feel any point of any church members treating you poorly or feel like they’re really push you to the boundaries. Say NO.
Don’t fall for gaslighting of some people being manipulative and saying “ you’re not so loving. Where’s Jesus love within you?”
Bible clearly say “ don’t take advantage of your brothers and sisters. Don’t be deceitful towards each other.” Another one “ one has to carry their own burdens.” If you feel like someone is trying to put all their burden onto your burdens, definitely say no. Know your boundaries because I’ve experienced toxic and heartbroken relationships where they don’t see me as a human being but their burden carrier.
You can’t expect anyone to carry your heavy burdens all the time. That’s too selfish. In Bible it said “ don’t idle to your brothers and sisters.”
One more thing: “ a person will treat you exactly who they feel about you. Don’t be blinded.” Just being nice or be friendly doesn’t mean that person has ever right to treat anyone like less of human being or be manipulative or be naracasstic or be toxic or be fake.
1 look at the Love of Jesus
Nice vs Loving
John 13 vs 34,35
You will know them by thier Love
Love one another as I have Loved you
Galatian’s 5
Focus on Gods Love for you❤️
2 Connect with Others
Cry with those who cry
Rejoice with those who rejoice
3 meet people’s needs
4 stand up for what’s right
Let your light shine that they may see your good works and glorify your father in heaven
Faithful are the wounds of a friend
5 promote Unity
Truly speaking, I suck at being a good friend, I’m so much of a LONER and everytime I get close to people, we end up on a wrong side coz I don’t know how to keep up… I love people but I prefer keeping a safe distance
As a Christian in my late 20’s, every “friendship” I have with fellow church members feels like we’re coworkers penciling each other in so we can “check off the box” of “socializing”. It never feels like anyone actually want to be close friends and talk about anything deep or personal- sharing each other’s struggles and successes. I’m *incredibly* lonely and frustrated. Like I’m just too late because I met them as an adult and they’re already got all the relationships they want.
A very nice picture, but not a particularly realistic one. The reality in churches is often that certain small groups form, everyone mainly looks after themselves and people who are new to the group are left as if they have been ordered and not picked up. You can even go to the same house circle, even for several years, and still nobody is interested in you – I mean to say, relationships are not a one-way street! That’s even so weird that when I was a teenager, nobody in the church actually cared for me, so I were even falling apart from any belief. Luckily, I found back to Jesus many years later. However, the reality of churches and their description in the Bible today is like the pictures of the burgers at McDonalds: in the photo they look fresh, delicious and incredibly beautiful. But when you open the cardboard box … well … really needs no comment.
I used to want friends and I would pray to God everyday for them,but in truth I never looked at the people who were right there….I used to run away from peoples imperfections , claiming they are just not holy enough.I used to avoid people by just judging them.When they try to talk to me I put on my church face,I could not really make any friends in school because I always wanted to see their imperfection and tell them to pray.Not knowing how much pain I caused them. I finished Last year in highschool being called the holy one..I used to take pride in it but now I see it was just fueling ny pride and also pushing a lot of people who genuinely just wanted to be my friends away thinking they were not holy enough..Lord forgive me.
Pls remember to love people despite their background , look beyond their imperfections and love them.I now see that the friends I was praying for to come were the ones I was pushing away all along.Be humble and love like Jesus.Do not seek your own RIGHTEOUSNESS..but just love.
Lord forgive us for judging and I pray who ever reads this will learn from their mistakes just like I did .
Amen..
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I have cried before but it’s really hard for me to cry. I don’t cry often and it’s impossible for me to cry when others are crying. I don’t know why, I cannot cry instantly anytime I want to. This doesn’t mean I don’t feel empathy. I feel the pain of people who cry and hurt and suffer, but I am not able to cry with them, but it doesn’t mean I am not sad for them. I always let other people talk but a lot of people don’t do the same for me. They always talk and never let me talk, and they interrupt me when I talk. I always try to be a good listener but they take from me more then they give and I never get a chance to speak. It really bothers me so much and it hurts my feelings very very deeply, I often feel like my voice and opinions don’t matter, and that no one cares what I have to say and I don’t get to have a say in anything. i am often forced to be silent and to bottle up my thoughts and feelings cause people forbid me from speaking
amen
Children often walk up to other children at school and simply ask to be friends.
When was the last time you asked someone to be your friend?
FAR too many Christian’s when you share your struggle will respond – don’t declare that sis! We gotta pray that off of you! And then they treat you like you have the plague. It’s disgraceful people do this rather than meet the person where they are at and show them empathy and comfort. This is error friends. Severe error and causes more pain and affliction on one’s soul. Show comfort. Show empathy. Show compassion and mercy and don’t try to fix a persons situation. Just meet them where they are at.
i was Alone.
But Now .
i Love ALLAH &
i Love jesus(Eesa Alaihissalaam).
Now they are my Friends & also all of you are my friends.
I had a bad falling out with some friends, and we haven’t spoken in months. I don’t want to try and rekindle the friendships, but I was thinking about them today and watched this video. I remembered how many things I did wrong, as well as what they did, and I’m trying to keep that in mind. Sometimes we don’t know the lessons God will give to us after a painful time in life, but He is going to help you through it 🙂
I’m late on this but if I have friends living in a sin how should I tell them what’s they’re doing is wrong even if it might end the friendship
I have a close friend of mine who I need to apologize to and own up to my mistake. This video really helped me to realise that.
i know this video is kind of old, but i wanted some commentary on a situation.
i had a friend who almost every day wanted to talk to me about his problems, and i always accepted it, giving advice and everything. problem is: he wouldn’t listen. he always came up with excuses as to why he couldn’t do what i told him to do. that went about a year. then, tired of him only wanting to talk to me so i would be his therapist, i gave up and stopped talking to him for good.
he still blames me to this day, saying i left him in the mud, that when he most needed help, i wasn’t there.
i dont think i made the right decision, but i know i had a reason to do this. what could I have done in this situation??
I get so excited about having possible church family and friends. I talk too much because i’m so happy and excited. This often chases people away.
My church friends r sunday friends
What happens if your friend is a Muslim who respect your religion?
Thank you for saying that church is more than a social group and that when other people are hurting, we need to hurt with them. I’ve been to a lot of churches over the years where people try to force you smile and act like you’re happy when you’re not. Some also only acknowledge certain kinds of struggles like sickness and death, but won’t pray for people who are not members, people going through divorces, losing jobs, losing homes or other life struggles. Weeping with those who weep means praying for everything.
I find it had to be friendly because of rejection
Amen❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Most churches are dead spiritually. The Lord’s not even leading me to one and no it’s not just my thoughts on this I’ve been to many and it’s nothing but entertainment or vein repetition. So when I went there and told him to repent yeah do you know how well that was received
երբեմն ես դա անում եմ քանի որ հոգնած եմ
This is worth it
Mathew 18:33-35.
We are forgive all their trespasses.
Psalm 119:165.
Nothing offends them that love thy Word.
Love one another has Christ Jesus loves the church… And do well to correct anyone who is wrong.
When its my first time at university i was that friemd who is full of encouragement , theres this classmate of mine who for some reason but not really that much so i ignored it . Many months later i notice a weird behaivior of hers where when some says my painting are good she will say " oh this classmate has a good painting " . She doesnt often do that , what really made me suspicious of her is when i join an art competition for the first time . Im not good at paimting when the time is limited and i have to paint under pressure so i was shaking its also my firtime so my paimting isnt good but i was happy to join an art competition . When its finish i was in thrid place since participants one watercolor is only 3 contestant including me i was just happy but she said " if this classmate joined she definately win " in front of after i was telling her i was just happy to join and gain experience , she said it twice . Also in the past she keep insisting for me to do this and that as if my paintings isnt enough or realistic enough for her , she always says use marker instead of watercolor but i dont know wanna use it because first of all i dont know how to control and paint with a marker ive always been a watercolor artist and i can control it , second marker is expensive and the ink is so quick to dry meaning if its dry theb you have to buy another while water color can last for how many years ( my old watercolor set lasted for 8 years ) . Until now i dont know what her deal but i definately developed on some toxic traits on the way . first i was a people pleaser amd this also has an effect as when i paint the only thing i can think of is how can i show her that im good at this and i can . I also developed competitiveness which sometiems i dont want her to have a source when it comes to study and i found myself looking if she higher ot lower than me . ( can i just she has a history of copying part of my design . We are both on a design class ) .
I dont want to say any negative things about her because we really dont know what shes thinking maybe she didnt do it on purpose or maybe she do really has intentions we dont really know but this just how i felt and how it efdected me . Its very troubling to be honest in my part because i was become a toxic person with me eben realizing it . Pls help
What what if the other person doesn’t give me time to talk? What if they don’t connect to me, while I’m giving my all and they don’t? Should I leave?
How to be a real friend:
Step one: be kind
Step two: be supportive
Step three: don’t talk about politics or religion unless you are REALLY sure that you are friends
Proverbs 18:24
[24]A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
This video is encouraging❤
Nobody but you is interested in a real friend it doesn’t go both ways one way or other
I grew up in an LDS church (Mormons), and they emphasized all of this. My mom was a poor single mom, but she never had a need that wasn’t met through her church. To this day, they were the most loving church I have ever been to. If not for doctrinal differences, I would definitely go back in a heartbeat. If fruit were all it took to know who was in Christ, I would say that church – at least those branches outside of a few people – was the best. They also had a reverence for God that many churches miss today, despite doctrinal differences. I remember going to Christian churches when I wasn’t visiting my mom, and I still knew more about the Bible than most people in those churches my age. It saddened me, and still does, that churches that were supposed to have sound doctrine had so little reverence for God, so little TRUE care for each other, and very little knowledge of Scripture. The ones that do seem to be caught up in religious webs over seeking to live in and pursue truth personally, too. I’ve been so disheartened that it can be hard for me to be a light myself at times. I’m much more worried about arguments and judgements than I should be now – from both the world and God’s people. I don’t want to disrespect those who are older or in leadership either, but I do want to follow Christ first, and it can be hard to distinguish when to do what.
Hello. As a non Christian teen I had about at least two- three friends to spend time with regularly and abroad as a teen, strangers would request to spend time with me and be my friend but now since 2012 September I have no friends and specifically no Christian friends, despite me being complimented by Christian’s for years. How does God actually send a Christian a Christian friend?
I’m not religious but I went to a religious site (not Christian tho, Bahai) because I felt lonely and they had the reputation of being sure nice. And it’s true that they certainly are at first glance and will definitely help you if really needed.
However I’ve also felt what you’ve perfectly described as the "church face". The relationships we had were absolutely not authentic and we actually couldn’t get that close because they had this mask, they never showed any negative emotions and never said they didn’t like someone or something, nor did they want to laugh and relax. Again, it’s not like they didn’t have any negative emotions actually. But I didn’t even see their positive ones. All I saw was a face at customer service or human resources lol.
And so we ended up not having meaningful connections.
Meanwhile I’m now in a friend group that’s not religious at all, that’s swearing and sometimes saying stuff that really isn’t nice.
However I managed to get along with them because they actually showed their authentic selves to me and not some mask as if they went to work.
So I actually know how actually nice and sweet they are.
If you want to be a friend, be a friend, not a worker who hides all emotions and your authentic self.
I have no friends.
I am hollow 🙂