Christian Dating Advice: What to Look for in a Spouse | Biblical Relationship Guide
Christian Dating Advice: What to Look for in a Spouse | Biblical Relationship Guide
Want to know who you should date as a Christian? In this honest conversation, Pastor Jonny Ardavanis and Brandon Wolf break down what the Bible says about dating, relationships, and finding the right spouse. Learn why “finding the one” might be the wrong approach, and discover the two key qualities to look for: character and chemistry.
Key topics covered:
– The difference between worldly and biblical dating
– Why loving God should be the #1 priority in a potential spouse
– How to evaluate someone’s spiritual maturity
– The importance of work ethic in relationships
– Practical wisdom for Christian singles
Whether you’re single, dating, or preparing for marriage, this Biblical guidance will help you make wise relationship decisions. Perfect for young adults, college students, and anyone seeking God-honoring relationships.
Featuring Brandon Wolf, Young Adult Ministry Leader at Stonebridge Bible Church
🎧 Part of the Dial In Ministries Podcast
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Maybe this was said in a previous one but this is important. when the purpose of a thing is not known abuse and misuse is inevitable. The purpose of a first date. It’s not to have fun. It’s not to hook up. It’s not whatever the world‘s been saying the purpose of a first date is. The simple purpose of a first date is to find out if there should be a second date. Period. Fun and enjoyment should be a byproduct,but the main purpose…should there be a second?
“Do they love the Lord ? “
Thank you for sharing, from a God loving single woman who is praying and believing that dating must lead to marriage, and that divorce in NOT an option.
Love for Christ and His Word and His Church
Be the man that deserves the woman you hope to find.
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”
Matthew 6:33 ESV
I really enjoyed listening to you two guys talk. I’m a single man and I’m always looking for Christian advice on navigating the whole dating scene. I look forward to seeing the rest of this series!
I’m trying to become an actual follower of Christ rather than someone who just says I do and it is really difficult for my girlfriend and myself to change and manifest the commandments. I’ve lied and I’ve been a lousy man lately so this is nice to provide a path forward when lost like this. Thank you gentlemen.
this was good but I just want to comment I grew up with a single mom & no positive male role models in my teenage years or really ever, not since I was young. as he said in the video , ppl come from different backgrounds, I wasn’t born again until I was 23 by Gods grace. He opened my eyes , saved me & changed me but still this was after retaining many important life lessons without the blessing of a personal relationship with older men who are wise, (I have worked w guys like that tho & learned some things from them, to give some credit) having gained wisdom had many experiences & grew up to be a man on my own. then finally seeking the Lord & His Word to lead me in my mid 20’s – that is Who I look to for guidance, wisdom, discernment & revelation He blesses me with. I believe it is a blessing to know wise men who are older, that pour into you. I pray all young guys get to experience that but not all of them are blessed w that, yet some still grow up to be a good & wise man who would lead a family in the way they should go & be able to be that man they never had to younger guys not only in the Church but to those who might still be in the world waiting to be discipled. I know that’s a blessing too & believe the Lord expects me to steward it well in a way that serves, honors & brings Him the glory & thanks. I’d love to meet younger guys in a similar position I grew up in (we know there’s many) & teach them things their dad would teach them if he was in their life.
my point with this comment is having those men in your life helps to grow , gain wisdom & makes it easier to avoid going down certain routes or make certain mistakes, but that type of mentorship isn’t ultimately necessary to become a good man (for some) –
I would say it is crucial but wouldn’t say EVERYONE who hasn’t had that is not in position to lead , provide & protect a family. if that’s required to be seen as husband material by young ladies , then what the Lord has blessed me with would go unused in a very big way.
one thing that’s really helped me to see where people are at practically , mentally & spiritually is asking God for discernment & praying about who you meet, that the Lord might reveal to you what’s needed to see a trees fruit
Watching from Philippines
According the a divorce attorney’s website only having sex with your lifelong partner is the number one indicator that it will last.
My husband and I argued at least once a week before we were married and for 2 years after being married. We both are true followers of Jesus Christ. I prayed and started denying my feelings. I pursued Jesus and obeyed His commands (sanctification). We just hit our 5th anniversary we do not argue at all, we pursue the Bible and prayer for any disagreements. If necessary we involve an elder. If you start a "bad" relationship doesn’t mean it will always be bad. "He who began the good work in you will will perfect it" Phil. 1:6. Jesus is the author and perfecto of our faith.
Just released a song about Christian dating!
https://youtu.be/QLiblqJGQB8?si=yvrvTp6-8LI0buoq
Also I think it’s I can understand why the Bible talks about
Only a few minutes in but I’d add to "Do they love the Lord …..of the Holy Bible?" Sadly this needs clarification. I live in Mormon country and all Mormons LDS identify as Christian and LOVE the lord jesus so much it’s in their churches name and they all have his picture in their living rooms. They are not believers in Christ Jesus of the Holy Scriptures but they will argue that they are. (Similar to those that say they are Christian because they are a good person)
I really enjoyed listening to these. Thank you for sharing.
In Song of Solomon, at least in part of it, she doesn’t seem to live in his house.
This is awesome! Excited to tune in to this whole series as a Christian man that is single! Please bring on a single Christian man as part of the series!
Woooooow, I thought last year, if dial in ministries has ever posted content regarding dating advice? Because I KNOW it would be BIBLICAL based. To my surprise, there wasn’t. i am PUMPED for the future. I know countless will be blessed in the forthcoming!!!
This is awesome! So looking forward to this! Praise God great timing ❤
thank you for this. officially entering my single season again and this got me to reflect a lot that to what i’m looking for, I myself should step up and continue to focus in Christ and serving others
Thank you!
My conclusion about dating is that there is a risk of falling into listening to experiences and biased personal interpretations. Marriage and having children is not a central part of Christianity. Even in Paul’s opinion it was better to remain single fot he ministry. The main part of Christianity is God’s will. If we seek God’s will as a principle, everything else in our lives falls into place. Sure, we can hear opinions and experiences from other Christians, but they are not rules given by God for every person in every situation. There is a reason why the topic of dating is not in the Bible as such, either because it s cointained in other greater, more important principles and we should pay attention to these, or because the concept of modern dating is not a thing at all.
I absolutely know how selfish I am brother. Lord help me
Thank You!
Christianity- a love for the Lord Jesus Christ
Amen
thanks
0:48 Hi Dail In Team, thank you for producing this video. Please what does “Theology Fuels Doxology” mean?
Lots of good advice and practical cautions. Thank you for the wise counsel!
Right now, it’s not that I raised my standards, it’s just that I know now what I truly want. I call it Godly standard ❤❤❤❤
Relationships will continue to be hot messes until the churches stop telling people to try to eliminate potential problems instead of advising people to work through them when they arise and the WILL arise.
I broke up with my boyfriend last November 2024 because the relationship became sinful. I didn’t ignore all of the red flags and I put an end to our relationship. It requires a lot of courage but it’s absolutely worth it.
Let’s be honest there are a lot of Christians who will never make an ideal spouse and will have to remain single no matter how much they want marriage and family. Christian standards are very high and won’t help all Christians to find a spouse.
Seriously this is gold
Too late for this Christian man.
Your parents especially your father are responsible for teaching you about sexuality, not your local pastor, unless your parents aren’t present or aren’t discipling you as they should
I’m struggling to find the path forward from the inevitable end of my marriage. While I do have Biblical grounds for divorce I have chosen reconciliation but my wife says she “fell out of love” and wants out. How does one walk through what is most definitely a path that God does not approve while staying faithful.
Kind Brethren of your "dialinministries", to do this, "Christian Dating Advice: What to Look for in a Spouse | Biblical Relationship Guide", and may I say Brethren: what I believe about Spouses?
Assuming you said "Yes"…I believe that a true Christian Wife; is FAR different. IE…1 Corinthians 14:34 Let your women keep silence in the churches: for it is not permitted unto them to speak; but they are commanded to be under obedience as also saith the law.
And read this…Genesis 3:16 Unto the woman he said, I will greatly multiply thy sorrow and thy conception; in sorrow thou shalt bring forth children; and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee.
Now have you noticed…ALL books in Bibles; were written by men. And, All "Leaders" were men. The 12 Israelites are all men. And the 12 Jesus’ Disciples were all men. Notice this in…
Revelation 17:1 And there came one of the seven angels which had the seven vials, and talked with me, saying unto me, Come hither; I will shew unto thee the judgment of the "Great W***e" that sitteth upon many waters: Revelation 17:2 With whom the kings of the earth have committed "fornication, and the inhabitants" of the earth have been made drunk with the wine of her "fornication".
Please, have you noticed: "Thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee!" When have yuz see: that any where today’s? Huh? Amen!
Not just what to look for, but WHERE to look
Thank you for this analysis and commentary!
Proverbs 18:22
He who finds a wife finds a good thing
and obtains favor from the LORD.
I think this is key, a woman ought to be found by the man, and the woman be open to meeting a man not closed off, not living her life for the Lord just waiting for a spouse. Both men and women in their singleness (marriage is not promised) ought to be using their gifts and living out the Gospel in their lives. If the Lord blesses them with marriage great and if not great too.