How to Deal with Rejection in Christian Singleness: What to Do When You Get Rejected By Your Crush
How to Deal with Rejection in Christian Singleness: What to Do When You Get Rejected By Your Crush
When you get rejected by your crush, a guy, or a girl that you really liked, it can be hard. How you deal with rejection will be the key. Rejection happens, even in Christian relationships, but we can use it for our good if we know how to deal with rejection. Here are 5 ways to deal with rejection as a Christian single.
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This was really helpful thank you, I just went through a situation where like you said it could bring me closer to the lord or it could go the other way and because I feel rejected I go and get drunk and try and get out of it or something like that, but this vid has helped me to relize that rejection can help you grow depending on how you act
What if you fucked up on this wayyy to much. I don’t take rejection well.
i got used to this… i am rejected, denied, discarded, dumped, ignored…. that’s always the case… maybe God wants me to be alone and accept my fate whether i like it or not….
I reacted rather than responded and I didn’t expect to do that. So because I did that did that set me back?
Hello, weird comment here, I have decided to google and watch videos of how to handle heartbreak this is my story. i am a collge student and there is this guy in the class that I liked since the beginning, now he was not christian and In my mind I had a strong feeling that God did not want this relationship to happen. My pastor even preached about it how dangerous being in a relationship with non- christian can be which I considered was a sign from God. What did I do? I ignored all of that I wanted to be with the guy so bad, I was ready to give it all up, also everytime I was close to teh guy I felt distant from God. This guy became my idol. I thought about him day and night he revolved around my world. I even thought that one day I would marry Him despise of how different we are. Until I actaually decided to be bold as a woman and ask him out. Turns out he rejected me even though he says that he does not have a girlfriend. I am truly heartbroken but I am trying to not let my guard down around him and be strong. I feel like I had betrayed God for a guy and was ready to throw it all away in just one matter I mean if the guy had said yes I would probably be in his arms and not look back on what God said. I truly feel ashamed. I keep looking around for the person I want to spend the rest of my life. like literrally I am asking myself with every guy that I meet is that the one? I feel as of I am going out of my mind and feel like no connection is left between me and God I tried to pray but I feel like my prayers are not strong enough and i feel like there is a barrier between me and God. The worst thing is I have no one to talk to about this. It is only me keeping all of this inside of my heart.
Hallelujah Jesus! You are so worthy Lord! This word/messaged blessed me so much. Lord please help me to hold onto this knowledge on today, and any other time that I may feel rejected in Jesus name. Amen.
Hey Mark, your comments at 5:21 was exactly what happened to me about a month ago – I ended up saying to her that she led me on and that she was a hypocrite. It was an incredibly immature thing for me to say and though I had a deep sense of regret at the time, I found myself distancing myself from everyone really. Though I wasn’t able to emotionally connect with her spiritually, I still wanted to her to understand why she meant the world to me. I am reading Desiring God at the moment and I believe it is helping, bit by bit. I wasn’t happy with who I was and it’s almost impossible to love someone if you can’t love yourself first – and I feel through God, it is the only way.
Amen very good Godly wisdom! Stay blessed!
There is reason why God said be fruit and multiply. Bcus there a millions of people out there who could even suitable than ur crush
Why would you overthink about a girl who doesn’t care about you? She’s waiting for someone other, she literally could not care less, do not fell into a trap of your own emotions, those things are dangerous mind illusions, she’s not worth that, she’s not worth your effort, someone other is. Better take care of yourself and your trust in God. There is always someone better for you and you will know that if you stay together till the very end and if you broke up before then she was never meant to be your wife.
I’ve been rejected from job after job I’ve applied to and being unemployed right now it’s been rough. This video helped me with that big time. Thank you!
Thank you God for this video
I’m used to being rejected sadly and almost expect it. Just to be honest. But working through that.
One woman who rejected me hurt a little, but in a year or so, I noticed she was going through changes after she moved. She got a few tattoos, which I find to be a turn off and something a real Christian shouldn’t do. She seemed to start supporting homosexuality. She once wore a very revealing dress to a Christmas party. There’s a chance she’s coming back to God lately now based on some Facebook posts, but I am kind of afraid to ask, since I didn’t talk to her since the rejection.
Maybe she knew I wasn’t going to accept her choices.
I’m just a kid who got rejected by a girl I liked and I don’t want to go back to school and see her
I am not responding well to a ten year rejection
Thank you for the message. As men we are meant to find and pursue our future wife, but being rejected can really mess up our confidence and that is just a snowball effect.
Guys, our value is in Christ not in if we can get a girl to fall in love with us. I say this because I have to remind myself this sometimes 🙂
This is one of the best messages I’ve heard on rejection. God Bless you
I just come to grips with my failure that will last my life on Earth is that ‘I Never Know what a Woman is Thinking!’
I have just recently had this experience and I wanted to ask any Brothers and Sisters in Christ if they would agree with me that I should move churches temporarily in order for me to grieve.
Most women do reject many of us men today, and you should really see the very horrible ones that they’re going with these days. Then again, most women are very pathetic these days altogether.
This has been multiple seasons for me. But God is still Good.
Christian people aren’t supposed to hurt you
Me: *steps out of my comfort zone*
Her: *No, for whatever reason*
Me, to me: "Okay. She just wasn’t the one God has set aside for me. So I wouldn’t have been as happy with her, as I am single, anyway."
1 Corinthians 7:38 So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well; but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better.
I am now at a place where I Thank God for every person that rejected me. I understand that they were not meant to be in my life for whatever reason. It taught me that I had to really lean on God. I had to learn the difference between being alone and being lonely. You can be with a crowd of friends and still feel lonely. You are never alone for God said he would never leave you nor forsake me! I learn not to always take it personal. They weren’t rejecting me, they were rejecting the God that was in me at that time. There is a huge difference.
For guys, the girl you may be seeking maybe not be your rib. You’re trying to fit the wrong rib into your rib cage. The ribs protect the internal organs. Therefore, men it is very important that you seek the missing rib that God took from you to form your Eve. Ask God to take you to your missing rib. Genesis chapter 2 verse 21 – 23. Is she your rib? Only God knows that answer! Blessings to all!!
For women, every rib cage is not yours to try to fit yourselves into. We try to fit ourselves where we do not belong.
Love and Peace be yours……
i was rejected by 2 guys the same way within a ten year gap…so i am generalizing sadly…its just not fair…i started cursing them!!
This is good info. I’m in a relationship now after a divorce. I am excited and nervous all at the same time. I think its health to know the worst can happen. I also think it wise to enjoy the moments. In anything ,especially relationships, I have this saying "It is what it is until its not"
I was praying God for my crush but not to be my will or her but His and His answer was NO… And I continued to pray for her but this time not because I wish to have here back but to choose right man for her… but not myself rather the right one. I have my own path…
Is this rejection? I will explain.
I asked a guy out for coffee he said yes what time? I said at noon at Starbucks. He said I can’t make it at that time I leave to go home. Than I never heard back from him.
This second guy I asked him out for coffee he says he works. He can’t do because of work.
The third guy just ignored my messages.
The fourth guy said he can’t because he is gay.
Why is this happening to me? Is there something wrong with me? Would you call all this a form of rejection? They all basically saying NO.
She told me she was not ready for a rellashionship that she wants to focus more on God
What about if it isn’t just an isolated case, because I’ve experienced rejection of multiple kinds more times than I can count. I’m now at a point where I’m desperately trying to not focus on guys, but recently a guy started talking to me, led me on BIG time (even told me I’d be "a dream wife") and then told me he’s not into me like that ….
I didn’t pursue him at all. Im beginning to just be angry because I feel like I can’t escape any of this. I can’t guard my heart for the life of me, no matter how many times I ask God to help me do so. I think I need to learn to just shut off my feelings and then hopefully I won’t get hurt anymore.
What about constant rejection?
That’s an issue that a lot of non attractive non financially successful people like me suffer.
My wife cheated on me I lost my home almost lost my kid
My heart Is shattered I prey only for a life of singleness and to make money for my daughters school I have 0 desire to marry again
I’ve just had to reject someone. It pains my heart to do so, she was a good friend, but I just didn’t see her that way.
What does it mean if one experiances series of rejection??strange thing is many of them come back after rejecting you..why would that happen??
This video was so good!! I confessed to a crush and I knew their answer, but the rejection still hit very hard. I think it hit harder because of my assumptions of why I was rejected and also me denying how I truly felt about the whole ordeal. Thank God that I ran across this…blessings!
Luke 17:27 They did eat, they drank, they married wives, they were given in marriage, until the day that Noe entered into the ark, and the flood came, and destroyed them all.
I’m fine with rejection because I respect people’s choices, but I struggle with the repeat experience of meeting only lukewarm Christians and not men who are mature in their walk with the Lord enough to lead. I’m a new Christian myself (2 years), so I don’t expect a lot and would actually like to grow together with someone in the faith…but I feel like I’m being deceived by Satan over and over again, pursuing things that simply are not there… advice?
The hockey metaphor is amazing. Your concept of being guarded yet coinciding taking risk is perfect. Holy Spirit came over me from that entire article, I missed church today and my buddy told me they discussed Psalm 4, same ch. you talked about in your article/vid here!
I’m so scared of being rejected that’s why I think I haven’t been able to do or recibir algo que sigo rezando …
Let’s get one thing straight: If you are a man, then you have most certainly experienced rejection.
And let me tell you this: It’s perfectly normal. It’s a natural part of growing up, like losing your baby teeth, or getting a beard when you reach puberty.
There is NO reason to feel ashamed, or inadequate, just because you were rejected by a woman. Even men who are "successful" with women experience rejection many times. It’s just another life experience for us. It’s how we learn, how we grow and develop as a person.
I honestly believe even these "bad" things we face make us wiser and braver in the long run. And that’s why (in my opinion) God lets us experience it.
all kinds of good advice there –
but you seem to have missed the most important – and most Christ-centered –
answer to the sting of rejection – namely *PRAY FOR YOUR ENEMY* *!!!* .
whenever we feel hurt – or in any way discomforted – by someone –
that person is – consciously or unconsciously – experienced as our "enemy" –
in a very real and deep emotional sense.
so – how to deal with such intense discomfiture ?
simple – just follow Our Lord’s Most Wise and Fatherly advice –
and PRAY FOR THE "OFFENDING" PARTY !!!
nothing else will do so much good for you –
and for the elusive object of your unrequited love.
indeed – you will instantly feel VERY loved and comforted by
the One and Only – Most True and Faithful – Lover of Your Soul.
You can’t lose if you don’t play the game. God put enmity between man and woman. Focus on work, health and doing right. Avoid unnecessary heartache.
Its hard to move wen i asked god specifically what i want n found it and she dumps me for no realistic reason hurts
When everyone close to you in your life rejects you for one reason or another, it results in a deep heart and soul wound that completely annihilated your self-worth and self-esteem. If you stop there, you’ll quickly think of suicide and may die as a result. But if you wait moment and realize the revelation that you had been gaining your self-worth from others, and now remember that God knew your soul before you were born, then formed your body in the womb and He died for you knowing that you’d be a sinner to offer His loving grace and eternal life to you personally, than you can obtain the self-worth and self-esteem that God Almighty has given to you and no one else can ever take it away from you again.
Now respect God and follow Jesus who has instructed us to love others as we would love ourselves, to treat others as we want to be treated, not ever condemning but instead forgiving them always as long as we’re still fallible and until we’re resurrected in incorruptible new Heavenly bodies that no longer suffer from temptations, faults and failures.
My challenge is that i know most women I meet are not Servants of THe King >>Jesus >>>>>
The people that doesn’t like you, doesn’t need you, doesn’t want you, or not interested in you (who ‘reject’ you) are not the people that God send into your life.
I feel too ugly for someone to love me. However I do genuinely want to obey God love people but I’ve been rejected in many areas of life. I’m trusting my Father that he will settle me.
I am trying to take in the true fact.
WE ARE NOT WORHTLESS. I AM NOT WORHTLESS. I think we call God a liar if we believe otherwise.
WE ARE WORTH MORE THAN MANY SPARRORS REMEMBER!!!
FOR OUR GOD DOES NOT LIE!!!!!
Now… I need this to sink in. I pray we all do… Dear Lord open out minds in Jesus name.