5 Things the Church Needs to STOP Telling Christians Singles Who Desire Marriage

5 Things the Church Needs to STOP Telling Christians Singles Who Desire Marriage

Are you getting bad dating advice from your church? If you are a Christian single person who desires marriage or you are leading people in this season of life, here are 5 things the church needs to stop saying.

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35 Comments

  1. @GodsDaughter_89 on April 13, 2025 at 7:52 pm

    So glad you made this video Mark. I’ve been told 3 out of 5 of these things not necessarily by the church I attend but by fellow Christians who are in relationships/courtships with godly men. These women were single like me last year and now this year they’re in relationships.

  2. @adamtr1121 on April 13, 2025 at 7:54 pm

    This was definitely a great video and i agree with many of your statements.

  3. @TsuriaDragon on April 13, 2025 at 7:56 pm

    This is showing that the church isn’t fully committed to the teaching of the whole Bible can’t just randomly select topics but need to be going through chapter by chapter verse by verse from Genesis to Revelation but I understand as well to do so on our own personal time. But it’s even greater with the body of Christ.

  4. @MItchKerkenbush-y2y on April 13, 2025 at 7:56 pm

    Or one that I’ve been told “Just because you have a desire for marriage doesn’t mean it’s Gods will but hey my wife and I are going on a marriage retreat so you can pay for us to go since your single” every day I push this desire away but time and time again it comes right back

  5. @hokusei90 on April 13, 2025 at 7:57 pm

    THANK YOU! It feels like somebody is actually hearing my complaints. So thank you Mark!!

  6. @JerushaAlima on April 13, 2025 at 7:57 pm

    Thank you, Mark I had given up and had begun to come to terms with being single.

  7. @kathyparker8357 on April 13, 2025 at 7:58 pm

    A Very Good Video. My Church Encourages US Singles. Thank You Mark

  8. @lindafish2789 on April 13, 2025 at 8:03 pm

    Idolizing relationships????

  9. @RandyLee-y3r on April 13, 2025 at 8:05 pm

    Amen to this video, well said and I have seen wrong advice from the church and married men, we need more conversations like this…. boy, everyone thinks that have the answer to what is in my heart or what God has placed in my heart….again i say well said!

  10. @RandyLee-y3r on April 13, 2025 at 8:08 pm

    Amen to this video, well said and I have seen wrong advice from the church and married men, we need more conversations like this…. boy, everyone thinks that have the answer to what is in my heart or what God has placed in my heart….again i say well said!

  11. @IronGiant2790 on April 13, 2025 at 8:09 pm

    Well said, and great video. I feel like I’ve heard everything here in various forms except #4, and I’m so glad there’s someone out here finally debunking / clarifying these phrases. I honestly wish this video could’ve been made, like, 10 years ago haha

  12. @paulwinter5630 on April 13, 2025 at 8:13 pm

    One I’m sick of hearing- marriage is hard work. Completely dismissing how hard being single can be

  13. @jacobwest7 on April 13, 2025 at 8:14 pm

    One thing I’ve heard, though from youtube videos not Church is that theyake it sound like God has someone for everyone. Not trying to sound negative but not everyone is guaranteed a spouse. Some people are meant to live their lives alone, whether they want to or not. Saying they will find someone is similar to telling someone they will live a healthy life.

  14. @jelenahristov4094 on April 13, 2025 at 8:17 pm

    This video is so great and really helpful for me and Christian single’s group I am leading in my country. First three things are definitely present in the Christian circles I am in.

  15. @DenshaOtoko2 on April 13, 2025 at 8:17 pm

    No one helped me then mocked me. It’s so easy, just go to a bar!

  16. @misslinda772 on April 13, 2025 at 8:18 pm

    It’s hard finding a mate. And it gets harder either with age. Thank you for tips, Mark, on how to make it easier. ❤️

  17. @PrettyIntelligent on April 13, 2025 at 8:21 pm

    The church has failed many singles by being unrealistic in a few ways when it comes to relationships. The elephant in the room is that we are adults who face real challenges and it is not always easy to "keep the faith."

  18. @adamclapp896 on April 13, 2025 at 8:23 pm

    Hi Mark, thank you for making this video. I’m a 36 year old single Christian man and I’ve never been in a relationship with a woman. I have a question to respectfully ask. I understand the point you made about doing everything right for trying to get married for instance and it doesn’t happen because God has a different plan then marriage for a person. My question is this: if a Christian person has a desire to be married but it never happens, then why were they given the desire for marriage at all? Thank you and God bless.

  19. @DenshaOtoko2 on April 13, 2025 at 8:24 pm

    Stop using singles for free volunteer work.

  20. @katherinemorrison4522 on April 13, 2025 at 8:25 pm

    Very insightful! Thank you!

  21. @REBEKAHJOHNSON-lh6xh on April 13, 2025 at 8:30 pm

    I am struggling right now. I am 34 and only been in one relationship for a week. It was not even really serious. But I’m recently discovering I am neurodivergent and I get overstimulated throughout the day that I just want to go home after that and not go back out. But between that and not having money to go out and meet people, I feel screwed. I’m doing what I can to get a raise (2 more quick classes), but I’m still struggling. I met someone incredible, but then the toxic church separated us and I haven’t seen him since.

  22. @rustigreizenaub9249 on April 13, 2025 at 8:30 pm

    I’m feeling lonely. I’m from the LDS community, i’m a Mormon.
    Gr gr Dario.

  23. @marilynkhasnabish7407 on April 13, 2025 at 8:31 pm

    I’m glad you said it. Refreshing!

  24. @mrsturtevant1 on April 13, 2025 at 8:32 pm

    I never liked that statement either, "God helps those who help themselves".

  25. @Citizen-by9vw on April 13, 2025 at 8:33 pm

    Thanks, Mark

  26. @unvaccinatedmensclub on April 13, 2025 at 8:35 pm

    Christian men need to first address their porn addiction.

  27. @lancemarchetti8673 on April 13, 2025 at 8:36 pm

    *_All good and well, but the church generally favors married couples over singles…and the issue is always just side-stepped with cliches like: "focus on God" , "serve the Body", "God’s got someone in mind for you" ,"wait on God" etc etc, year after year. And the singles leave the church building just as lonely as when they arrived, month after month, year after year._*

  28. @mattmallecoccio8378 on April 13, 2025 at 8:39 pm

    How about the whole thing of "you’ll know when you meet the one" that people say when they want to stop you asking "how will I know when I’m in love?"

  29. @1985tmc on April 13, 2025 at 8:39 pm

    I think it’s also wise not to share desires with just anyone we meet. It’s good to be sensitive to who God puts on our hearts to speak with regarding specific things. Also, recognizing God knows who He has taught and shared His word with. Plus, it’s a reality that not everyone has a teaching gift. Teaching and counsel should be given by men and women as God leads them. He knows who is walking with Him, who has received His word and obeyed it from the heart. Anyway, this principle has helped me through some very tough decisions because the people God told me to speak with had knowledge and understanding that I needed them to have to strengthen my faith and give me hope pertaining to my desires from the Lord.

  30. @SamsungJ6-k8b on April 13, 2025 at 8:40 pm

    Your​ 5 suggestion​s​ here​ are​ very​ practical​ and​ lots​ of​ people​ need​ it.

    Thank​ you​ Lord​ Yahoveh​ for​ YouTube​ as​ the​ medium for​ alternatives view​ point​ so​ crucial​ decision​ in​ life​ can​ be​ made​ rightly​ when​ apply​ scripture​s.

  31. @unvaccinatedmensclub on April 13, 2025 at 8:44 pm

    Most churches just do a terrible job with the subject of marriage. Too many churches treat their singles like pariahs if they aren’t married. It’s really awful going to churches like that.

  32. @Chewy725 on April 13, 2025 at 8:46 pm

    ‘It’ll happen when you least expect it!’ AHHHH!!!!! Well how do I stop expecting it then?! Drives me insane!

  33. @americantopgunner5102 on April 13, 2025 at 8:47 pm

    Well some idolize relationships so I don’t think it needs to be stopped from being said. It’s like a great areas maybe they should word it this way. If your idolizing a relationship, stop. Also waiting on God is good but seeking Him for counsel is important also. So I don’t think this needs to be stoped also. All these things I feel are spiritual but practical convo must he had as well. I’m praying to God for a wife and he spoke. Sole of these saying are true for some not all. If I wait on God and I want a wife now but only God knows He will give me one In 3 years we can lose patience and find one now which wasn’t Gods plan so waiting in God and seeking Him is important this is my opinion it’s just differs from the video.

  34. @kmydesire12 on April 13, 2025 at 8:48 pm

    How do you feel about Christian online dating?

  35. @michellepryor2735 on April 13, 2025 at 8:52 pm

    Very well said Counselor! Is exactly what I heard in my church. Nevertheless I am waiting on the Lord. Was looking at Christian dating during the pandemic an left empty handed many guys have the spirit of lust. People have spirits. Even across the screen. More prayerful and give it to God . Thank you for sharing great advice.

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