7 Dating Rules for Middle-Aged Christians

7 Dating Rules for Middle-Aged Christians

Here are some dating tips for Christian singles who are middle-aged. When you get a bit older, it’s important to change your dating habits if you want to meet the right person in the most efficient way possible. So here are 7 Christian dating rules for middle-aged singles who want to be married one day.

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  1. Am Or on August 31, 2022 at 12:33 am

    Am 37,single lady, no kids, recently born again and trying to date the Godly way.But part of me completely gave up.

  2. Gail Harmon on August 31, 2022 at 12:35 am

    Mark, thank you for what I call "balanced wisdom." This is greatly needed because a lot of singles put themselves in a box when it comes to the issues you’re describing. I commend you for your willingness to help singles. I’m in my 41st year of serving the Lord. I have grown children–but they suffered growing up because it’s a rarity to find a church that has a ministry for singles, single parents, and their children. I hope you have many opportunities to encourage pastors to begin a singles ministry. You are a blessing! I’m on your email list and I’d like to know how to make a donation to your ministry. Jeremiah 32:27–I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is there anything too hard for me?

  3. nomnom nomnomx on August 31, 2022 at 12:40 am

    not looking anymore

  4. gomer X on August 31, 2022 at 12:42 am

    thank you!!!

  5. Sarah Clark on August 31, 2022 at 12:43 am

    Hey Mark, I really like your advice in general. I like your scriptural foundation to prove your points. Can you please address a 38 year-old man who is unemployed by choice because he’s “waiting on God”. He has said that he wants a wife and children one day “when God reveals his wife” to him. How could he lead as a God-feared man and be unemployed? He also believes a woman should chase a man because of what happened with Samson. I considered him because we were friends and looked past so many things that I didn’t like because he is so convicted for God. I kept asking God to “please give me greater wisdom and greater discernment.” I believe he could be a narcissist too.
    I asked him where are your fruits a few times. He said he has patience. Yeah, ok; but I’m viewing it as complacency and cowardice to deliberately not contribute to the world and be “tempted” (drugs) in the world.

    Video topic requests-Can you do a video on the Christian man “waiting on God” for a job and a different video on the narcissistic Christian who appears convicted but is a withered tree that bears no fruit (fraudulent)?

    Thank you for being a vessel for Jesus Christ!

  6. J S on August 31, 2022 at 12:45 am

    Brother, have you any Biblical guidance for seniors who are single and want to find a follower of Christ for marriage? Thank you for your work and videos. May God bless your ministry and family.

  7. Sabrina Stanley on August 31, 2022 at 12:47 am

    Thank you Mark for doing…..I asked you to do this a while back…….I hope it’s God’s will to be married…..if it’s not i hope lurn to accept it

  8. Eve on August 31, 2022 at 12:48 am

    I believe God is preparing me for marriage.

  9. Stephen Baldassarre on August 31, 2022 at 12:51 am

    5:43, I wish more people would learn this concept, Christian and non-Christian alike. This is a big reason behind how we wound up with the highest single rate in U.S. history.

  10. Jen AB on August 31, 2022 at 12:56 am

    I’m a 38 year old woman who was briefly married and divorced long back. I kept trying and doing all the right things I thought would help me find the right partner. It was an utterly painful process. I never got close to someone who could be a potential partner. But this jan I finally clicked with someone who I met on an online site. I truly believe God blessed this for me. As it just flowed naturally and I dint have to push it or worry about it. There is a thing that God’s timing is on spot. Everything I did previously dint work. The minute i prayed and said I’m not going to worry about this, I’ll wait for you to tell me- everything fell into place. I know how painful waiting can be, but God does wonders and surprises us a lot.

  11. Adriel Thomas on August 31, 2022 at 12:58 am

    Thanks for sharing this. I know LGBT Christian couples that have been together for 10-15 years. It’s just such a shame that so many hateful Christians have pushed them out of the church. So glad that this is not one of those channels. Are you starting, by any chance, a series that shares advice to gay married couples or single LGBT Christians that are waiting on their God ordained partner? Or if you have any resources? We would love to start a platform that supports LGBT Christians to marry someone of the same sex as God intend for them. Thanks for all you do and celebrating marriage as a way for sharing God’s love.

  12. Marian Magdy on August 31, 2022 at 1:00 am

    Mark, can you please make a video about dealing with our emotions as singles while we are waiting?

  13. nadia dass on August 31, 2022 at 1:03 am

    hi, this was so very much helpful. thank you for this video.

  14. Simba on August 31, 2022 at 1:03 am

    So much good sense and wisdom in this series of videos, loving this! Am in early 40’s where previous relationships have not worked and were long term but not with Christians (I didn’t think it was the issue but maybe it contributed as I’ve never wavered in my Christian belief…but my parents were 2 different faiths one catholic one totally different and they worked out) so I appreciate the advice here because the ‘rules’ other people have told me haven’t worked.

  15. Monja Mondschein on August 31, 2022 at 1:03 am

    1 Don’t try to meet people like a younger person. Be more intentional.
    2 Don’t use courting principles.
    3 Eliminate conflicting desires. When you want everything, oftentimes you end up with nothing.
    4 Learn to be more accepting of others and emotionally self-sufficient.
    Pray about having a healthy acceptance of others. Only Jesus is perfect.
    5 Change something. Try another way.
    6 Stop Yoyo-dating (being extremely active or extremely passive)
    7 Don’t get bitter. Keep enjoying your life.

  16. Ricky Bobby on August 31, 2022 at 1:05 am

    Because of the destruction of family, religion, and no provided direction for either the average person or believer in the West they have been left to simply “figure things out on their own”. Feminism has conned the general populace into believing there are no differences between men and women and that males preferences for a mate simply don’t matter. In my opinion churches should be involved in vetting young people for marriage (if that’s what they wish to pursue), such as providing a true matching service rather than providing counseling after the couple has already decided to marry. This passive mentality of families and churches has led to this situation of sheer directionlessness in mate selection.

  17. Cynax 77 on August 31, 2022 at 1:08 am

    Great video. I was molested at thirteen years old; I probably have trust issues.

  18. d0l0might on August 31, 2022 at 1:09 am

    Thank you for this great video. The timing could not have been better given how God has been speaking to me lately. Being single and never married at 50…has been a Struggle for me. There’s a decision I need to make. Either I can stay miserable (and alone) over how nothing in my life up to this point has led to marriage, or I can choose to explore and change some things while trusting God to work things out. Blessings-

  19. Mimi Arzu on August 31, 2022 at 1:10 am

    I’m reading through these comments and it helps me feel like I am not alone. I am not the only person going through the challenges of being a single Christian and middle aged. Dating has been frustrating. Even talking to other believers about dating can be frustrating if they have been married for like 30 years and you know they cannot relate to what it’s like dating in 2022. I even get frustrated when someone says “pray about it” and I’m like duh I’m praying about it. Or when someone thinks it’s okay to ask me why I am still single. Anyways so I try to just focus on God and my own personal growth and happiness. For example picking up new hobbies that I’ve always been interested in and traveling

  20. Eve on August 31, 2022 at 1:10 am

    I’ve prayed to God a lot. He’s revealed so much to me over these 6 months. One thing He told me to do is to stop worrying about getting married and having children! He said I’m doing the right thing and I’m on the right path: read my Bible, keep praying, keep building a relationship with Him and His Son, keep going out dates, keep being open with your feelings. So whenever I get upset, I just think of what God told me.

  21. American _Duelist Guys on August 31, 2022 at 1:12 am

    Tbh despite healing I’m still afraid of getting hurt or asking a new girl out.I met her at church and for some reason I’m afraid of both possible rejection or getting hurt if we do date

  22. Aj 57 on August 31, 2022 at 1:13 am

    Define middle aged:), as in age range… Does this include those that are divorced?

  23. Mariana AR on August 31, 2022 at 1:15 am

    Thank youuu

  24. Mr Jiiive on August 31, 2022 at 1:17 am

    Hey Mark. Approaching Year 2 of a relationship with my girlfriend. I’m a believer but she isnt and she’s not open to it. Getting close to this milestone makes me question if I should stay with her and continue praying for her to find God or do I breakup with her before even more time goes by? I’ve been praying for guidance everyday for months and I still dont feel clear on what direction I should go. Thanks for all your videos.

  25. Matshadi on August 31, 2022 at 1:18 am

    It’s important to BECOME the type of person you want to be married to/ marry.

  26. Child of God on August 31, 2022 at 1:21 am

    Thank you, Mark! Right on time to hear this message. ❤️

  27. Lisa B. on August 31, 2022 at 1:24 am

    A lot of people who are middle aged and single are either widowed or divorced. Very few have not been married unless they were in a long term relationship but never married. Love your videos they are always on point however divorce is not an unforgivable sin and I believe once someone gives their life to Christ even after a divorce, God can send them someone who is on the right track and like they are striving to be.

  28. GGbOmb on August 31, 2022 at 1:25 am

    I’ve been following you for a while listening to everything, this was one that hit me because I’m 50 although I don’t look like I’m 50. I got really turned off to love recently because I just feel I’m not attracting the right people for me and I am a Christian woman. I kind of gave up on love because it just seems like I can’t find the right man for me mainly a man who loves the Lord. Divorced once and have one grown child and the other still raising. So I completely understand this video I think we need to approach it differently yet I still feel as if it’s hopeless and looking on dating sites I just get so disappointed. I’m not sure if I should Forget about love or ever finding a second chance to be married. They’re slim pickings out there….

  29. Jeffrey Davis on August 31, 2022 at 1:25 am

    25 consider young right?

  30. Amy Holloway on August 31, 2022 at 1:25 am

    This was a great video. You really understand the challenges us middle-aged singles experience. Great tips and really good to live by. So many people are quick to tell you pray about it or just give up marriage is not everything. I tell them if you want something pray and be intentional and put forth work. Only other tip would be don’t let anyone make you feel bad about being single or wanting to have a partner.

  31. With Cats on August 31, 2022 at 1:25 am

    Great vid, thanks.

  32. Siva Siwel Movement on August 31, 2022 at 1:27 am

    That’s the issue a lot of men attracted to me are in there early or middle 30’s or a little over 40. They are either leaving a marriage or getting out a relationship. I’m 40 and divorced for over 5 years and a certified mental health life coach

  33. Alfredo Campos on August 31, 2022 at 1:27 am

    I need god I love my ex girlfriend we both are middle age and of course I’m not perfect and I’ve prayed and yes spiritually we are evenly yoked but she is sooooo toxic I’m patient and understanding but she kills my spirit I’m stuck because she has a beautiful heart

  34. Eve on August 31, 2022 at 1:28 am

    I want to comment but I end up writing too much. So all I can say is thank you, God bless, and praying that we all find God’s will for us both in marriage and our entire lives.

  35. Christopher Nabours on August 31, 2022 at 1:28 am

    Idk why God wouldn’t hook me up with vianett. I profile women all the time. Couldn’t ask God for a better partner than a woman like vianett. The beauty, smarts and good character are overwhelmingly sexy. When I’m done with what me and God are doing are doing ill pursue her. If she’s not the one then I have no doubt the one will be an amazing gift from God.

  36. Hannah Grace on August 31, 2022 at 1:30 am

    What do you think about dating agencies for Christians? It’s been on my heart and I may join one later in the year…seems like people are more serious than on dating apps.

  37. SYD on August 31, 2022 at 1:32 am

    I’m so happy you addressed the traditional view of courting and how that does not apply to us older folk. I think back to when we were 18 they told us to go out only in groups of friends, go have pizza together etc. Then you and the person you were sweet on would be making eyes at each other across the table. Lol.

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