Christians In Abusive Relationships – What Does The Bible Say?

Christians In Abusive Relationships – What Does The Bible Say?

Abuse is a reality that many won’t look at or deal with. The pain is real. But does a God bless you make it better? No. Does it mean you are less than Christian? No. It means Christians need to face it together and you need to act. What does the Bible say? You deserve better.

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44 Comments

  1. MyPeaceCoach. com on February 21, 2022 at 10:38 pm

    Thank you for sharing this. My heart goes out to those experiencing abuse and its aftermath. I can relate. I enjoy helping to heal the brokenhearted. There is hope.

  2. Julia R. on February 21, 2022 at 10:39 pm

    Mother of 4. I’ve been with my spouse for 7 painful years. Now they think he may have cancer. I was finally going to leave. I’m at a loss of words. I’m devastated. I want to leave so bad, this is killing me!

  3. littleteethkeith on February 21, 2022 at 10:40 pm

    I’m in an emotionally abusive marriage. My wife is unbelievably cruel. However Jesus is with me in this storm as he is during all others.

  4. Dillon Bradford on February 21, 2022 at 10:42 pm

    What if you are married though would God want me to stick it out for the baby or for a chance that my wife will stop being abusive? Wait for God to change her? Or would God want me to seek a divorce? The way I’ve been thinking about it is that I’m married so I assume that God wants me to be married being how important and special that marriage is to God.

  5. Psychic TwinFlamePurpose EmilyACox Tarot on February 21, 2022 at 10:44 pm

    Could it just be the devil that has entered that person? What if they are the right person but Satan has taken over? We should have them delivered or pray. Why not fight for the marriage if they’re spiritual warfare?

  6. steven lucero on February 21, 2022 at 10:46 pm

    My name is Donna and my husband has abused me for 40 years . I can’t stay like this anymore . I have to leave . It hurts so bad ,but I didn’t want GOD TO condemn me . I know GOD LOVES ME. I don’t want to ever disrecpt my father JESUS CHRIST. GOD BLESS YOU

  7. michelle green on February 21, 2022 at 10:47 pm

    Both myself and husband are Christians but he is a chronic alcoholic and verbally demeans me DAILY! I have no way to afford to live on my own and don’t even have my own car family and friends are not able to help.i am sooooo tired(Kelly price song "tired" ) explains all!!!

  8. Charlier La Floss TV on February 21, 2022 at 10:47 pm

    Thank you.

  9. Kelvin Jubal on February 21, 2022 at 10:48 pm

    If your wife chooses to be selfish, self-centered and it is all about her and abuses you verbally and emotionally.. Isn’t this an abuse in her marriage vows? It is for this reason, I believed the husband has got a valid reason to divorce her. The husband deserves to have peace.

  10. Bonnie Jeffrey on February 21, 2022 at 10:49 pm

    Leaving is easier said than done if you have endured physical emotional and psychological abuse which has stripped you down to nothing you have nobody or isolated and they are in complete control of everything finances and everything how does one leave then he said oh I changed I’m not hitting you anymore and he left out left me stranded for 6 months it is so messed up I don’t even know how to think straight I feel like less than a human being dear God help me

  11. Jjlove13 Only on February 21, 2022 at 10:49 pm

    I am in a very Emotionally abusive relationship right now with a man who claims to be Christian. We met at church 3 years ago. Had so much in common we were so compatible and comfortable with one another and just fell so in love. Needless to say things went south over these past three years. This man had serious addiction issues and I stayed his friend and really was there for him to help him. He is doing ok for himself now. And I am just spent. I am not in love with him at all anymore. In fact I am utterly repulsed by his lack of care and understanding of my feelings and EVERYTHING that he put me through and how he just took what GOD gave him for granted. Along with other disheartening things that I am going through right now. Very selfish self centered man. And played a lot mind games with me. He killed the Love that I had for him which is so heartbreaking in itself. and he just tries to act like everything is fine. And I’m trying to put myself back together. With GOD’S help. And I L❤️VE JESUS. ❤️❤️❤️

  12. andresBgjmwt on February 21, 2022 at 10:50 pm

    The bible say believe and don’t ask why, How, where, because if you do you are against Gods love

  13. Tricia Anything is Possible on February 21, 2022 at 10:55 pm

    Yes and yes

  14. Lali Sanchez on February 21, 2022 at 10:59 pm

    Thank you those questions are truly good questions. I was in an abusive marriage for 3 years and worse use the church and the Bible to manipulate me. I am just so grateful that I finally got out of it. <3

  15. Lee Yost on February 21, 2022 at 11:00 pm

    manipulation and narcissistic tactics are so sneaky most don’t have discernment to recognize the abuser. They’re so charming in front of the right people

  16. Jennifer WarHawk on February 21, 2022 at 11:00 pm

    My husband is emotionally and verbally abusive. I didn’t realize what he was doing was abuse until a couple of years ago (after more than two decades of being with him). I finally told our pastor and even said that I was going to leave. My pastor thought it was a good idea to have the church family rally behind us and reach out to us daily to encourage and pray for us.

    While I appreciate their desire to rally behind us, they really don’t seem to understand the dynamics of abuse. It’s so frustrating because I know this effort isn’t going to work. An abuser can pivot around an effort like that.

    I want to leave and would if it wasn’t for our two year old. I don’t want her to have a worse life than her grown brothers had (he doesn’t abuse the children…I’m a SAHM). So I’m stuck in a very miserable situation. Even when he’s being nice, I know it’s just the calm before another inevitable storm.

  17. Nitesh Bagdas on February 21, 2022 at 11:03 pm

    Hello sir please help
    My father is just torturing us and threatening us to leave house
    Should we leave him along with our mom or what do to do plzz

  18. A. Humphries on February 21, 2022 at 11:03 pm

    Abuses other than physical are really hard to substantiate. Especially when the abuser is charming and manipulative.

  19. Heavenly blessings on February 21, 2022 at 11:04 pm

    he will not pay rent even if I give my whole salary he will give all the money to his Father who is a gangster pastor his Father has done many fraud work. And this man listening to his Father borrows money, take gold loans by my jewellery without my knowledge and if I ask he says that whatever his parent do we should obey them and he and his family always fights with me for no reason I’m sure they have a problem in their brains.

  20. Latha Pauline on February 21, 2022 at 11:07 pm

    My husband, MIL(late),and his siblings are abusive.
    Living a hellish life for past 20yrs
    When will all this end? I’m tired of this troubled marital life

  21. Himmiefan on February 21, 2022 at 11:08 pm

    Any time someone quotes Ephesians 5:22 without verse 21 and says that the verses mean that wives must obey (these verse are actually about caring for one another), then the stage is set for abuse. Conservative religion attracts narcissistic men like flies to honey.

  22. Sharon Dsouza on February 21, 2022 at 11:09 pm

    Excellent.. Thank you very much

  23. lone wanderer on February 21, 2022 at 11:10 pm

    I’m being heavily abused by my wife.
    But it’s ok, I’m praying every day for my end to come soon.
    But I find the waiting for it more unbearable every day, it’s taking too long

  24. Seema Gond on February 21, 2022 at 11:11 pm

    And what about those who are not Christians????? they are not child of God?????

  25. Enchanted music on February 21, 2022 at 11:12 pm

    this video is really useful to me….i was in a confusion wheather to leave my abusive husband or not ….for 6 years….i am being abused….now i dont want to live this abusive life……but being a christian…..i dont know wheather its god will or not…..so i hated jesus….for such marriage life……but this message… i beleive the god wants to tell me…..thank you so much…………

  26. Peter Robert Bowers on February 21, 2022 at 11:15 pm

    A true Christian… or a true follower of Yeshua; or Jesus as he is commonly known as… would never ever be in a relationship; or get married. That’s impossible. Jesus himself, said….. “you cannot serve 2 masters” It’s absolutely impossible to serve mortality and the spiritual at the same time. Or rather the material physical and the spiritual. Petrol and water simply do not mix.

    Being in a relationship. Getting married. Making babies etc etc… has got nothing to do with Christianity ✝️ Jesus never ever taught this. Jesus himself, was not capable of having… or being in a relationship. I’m not capable either. Because of the way i am.
    I’ve been celibate all of my life. Never ever have been in a relationship. Always read and studied the scriptures… on & off throughout my life.

    But no… if you are being abused in a relationship; then get out of it straight away; before you end up being murdered…. and buried 6 foot under.
    But it’s got nothing whatsoever to do with Christianity ✝️ or God. This is of society’s own doing.

    Another thing i would like to point out is…. that Jesus never ever taught human love. It was always spiritual; but NOT human.
    Saturday afternoon at 14:56. 2nd October 2021. U.K. Southampton

  27. Sammy Quesada on February 21, 2022 at 11:16 pm

    Hello. My wife treats me like this. I cheated on her. 5years ago. Please give me advise. Thank u.

  28. Glt 20191 on February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    100% truth.

  29. shanny 7 on February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    Always my fault…

  30. Melissa D. on February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    wherever there is oppression domination manipulation intimidation there is satan. these things are NOT of God and don’t exist in His kingdom

  31. Doreen Dotan on February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    Christianity is an abusive relationship with an idol based on an abusive interpretation of the Jews’ Torah, the true interpretation of which you are not privy to. According to your morally demented interpretation, the God of Israel is portrayed as an abusive Parent and Self. How can any good come of it.
    God is letting the Christian world know, by way of natural disasters, that your welcome on Earth has run out.

  32. Heather Biangardi on February 21, 2022 at 11:19 pm

    Everyone says run, get out, leave! How do you do that when you have no place to go or any money to leave??

  33. 純粋 on February 21, 2022 at 11:25 pm

    I’m scared of leaving and ending up on the streets because I depended on them for food, shelter and finances. Can’t even think straight from the years of walking on eggshells around them

  34. PhilAirForceGamer on February 21, 2022 at 11:26 pm

    Abuse is when someone decided to let his/her spouse suffer. Withholding love, intimacy and affection can drive you crazy

  35. yameli diaz on February 21, 2022 at 11:26 pm

    Thank you …. I needed this tonight.

  36. fairymairah on February 21, 2022 at 11:26 pm

    toxic relationships come in all varieties. not just between Spouses. it happens to parents abusing kids. siblings are just as Bad as spousal abuse.

  37. Gloria Speaking on February 21, 2022 at 11:28 pm

    In our place they used to say divorce is sin and women are just obeying tht even her husband is torturing her physically.

    Recently an issue happened where husband kills his wife with the help of snake for dowry issue after torturing her so much .this video is really amazing. People must watch this.thank you.

  38. Cruzan on February 21, 2022 at 11:29 pm

    There are individuals who lack the capacity to love . Prayer will not change an abusive individual. My mother in law was abused for 50 years. Her husband threatened to kill us . We packed her up and moved her out.
    I haven’t heard any mention of narcissism. Any discussion about domestic violence that doesn’t mention narcissism is incomplete. Nonetheless this gentleman is very compassionate and kind in his approach.

  39. kiko Gong on February 21, 2022 at 11:31 pm

    have been in a family which forever think their in-laws are not perfect and control them. there is no way for their adults kids to understand what is marriage. they are just controlled by their mommy and daddy, then want to control others.

  40. Bride of Christ on February 21, 2022 at 11:31 pm

    Praying for deliverance from this abusive relationship that is dominating my life, or children, and finances.

  41. MusiceWoman on February 21, 2022 at 11:32 pm

    The church keeps promoting unconditional love. But they never balance out the word of God by telling you about having boundaries against abusers. Please Pastors, teach also that Jesus was not a door mat. I want to put others first but I don’t feel God wants me to be so abused that I cannot function anymore.

  42. Zachio Coder on February 21, 2022 at 11:32 pm

    Every Christian is in an abusive relationship with an insecure man who hates gays.

  43. Calvin on February 21, 2022 at 11:35 pm

    Good news for the singles. So what can you do if you are married and she doesn’t want Counselling nor accountability?

  44. Madison J on February 21, 2022 at 11:35 pm

    Leaving my abusive boyfriend today.
    The last 5 years I prayed and prayed and prayed for him did everything I could to get him to change. I can tell he doesn’t want to be like this and thats why I’ve stayed so long. When he’s good he’s so good, he stays in the word, he just has a attitude/ snapping problem. The other week during an argument he pushed me up against the door bc I “wasn’t listening to him” slammed his head through the door, threatening to punch and choke me, pulled out his gun etc.. all in front of our 2 kids.
    This is not the first time this has all happened.
    All I wanted was my family to work.. so its pretty heartbreaking to have to leave today..
    but especially with 2 kids,

    I had to start thinking that it doesn’t matter how good the good times are if the next argument you’re dead..

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