What Age Should You Start Dating | Christian Dating Advice For Teenagers

What Age Should You Start Dating | Christian Dating Advice For Teenagers

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What Age Should You Start Dating | Christian Dating Advice For Teenagers

I was asked earlier this week what my thoughts were on teen dating. What is a good age for teens to start dating? Or what are some important things to consider when it comes to christian dating as a teenager. So in this video I share a few practical things from my experience with dating as a young person.


  1. Watermelon Queen on May 28, 2019 at 12:24 pm


  2. Tumblr Xxx on May 28, 2019 at 12:26 pm

    Lol I’m not allowed to date until I’m 18. I’m 15 currently

  3. Christian Tanker on May 28, 2019 at 12:27 pm

    I’m 15. And I’m a Christian and like a girl in my school. But i don’t know how to ask her.

  4. Pachiki Shalaputa on May 28, 2019 at 12:27 pm

    I’m 13 and I spend a lot of time seeking out Jesus is it okay if I date my crush even though I’m young?

  5. Khloe Lieng on May 28, 2019 at 12:29 pm

    Isnt it that you cant date until youre 16, but as a group, and at the age of 18 you can be a couple?

  6. Sam Plautz on May 28, 2019 at 12:30 pm

    Without ever dating I have a pretty good idea on this topic. I am 17 and there is this girl I’ve liked for almost 2 years now. Her and I talk and are really good friends, but for this whole time I have worried about it constantly, and during this past summer it really got to me and I was super depressed for awhile. I ended up talking to one of my friends about it and through a lot of conversations I eventually realized that I just needed to stop liking them for lack of a better word. I’m not really sure how to explain it. I had to decide to just let it go, and as soon as I did that day I just felt so peaceful and more happy than I had been in a long time.I still talk with her every day and I’d say we are even better friends now, but I just don’t think about liking her anymore. When you date, you give up a lot of freedom that you otherwise have. I can do so many things that my friend can’t because I’m single. Also you have to deal with so much else in high school that putting the extra stress on can make it unbearable sometimes. So my answer to this question is really to just wait. There is so much more of a life ahead of you, and you need to focus on you before you can focus on someone else. And before you can focus on you, you need to focus on God. I am really glad I was able to just say no, and that one word has changed the last month of my life so much. I also said how happy I always was when I was around this girl, and my friend told me something which is probably one of the most important and most valuable words I’ve heard in my life. "Don’t put your happiness in a person." That is so true. People will fade away, and the love and happiness of people is not perfect and is corrupted. But putting my happiness on God will never fail.

  7. patrick rhule on May 28, 2019 at 12:34 pm

    What are your views on Christians masturbating

  8. John C on May 28, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    I have a few principles. I see a Biblical man as one who is masculine. That means he feels responsibility to lead, provide for, and protect women.

    He must have a strong, personal relationship with Christ. He must have leadership skills, the ability to adequately protect a woman, and the ability to adequately provide for a woman. He must also feel feel responsible to do these things.

    Prior to seeking a relationship with the opposite sex, his focus should be on maturing as a man and developing his own walk with Christ. But, he should not pursue such relationships before he is ready.

    Though God can still work and make you ready if you start too soon, it’s a far more unnecessarily difficult process.

  9. Reforming into the image of Jesus on May 28, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    Would it be okay to let the person you would like to date know that you recognize we both probably are not ready to date for marriage and maybe we can wait till then?

  10. Cambria Gerrits on May 28, 2019 at 12:36 pm

    How old is he now?

  11. Alec Xavier ギス陰 on May 28, 2019 at 12:37 pm

    lmao i thought this is gonna be like a legit video about "What Age Should You Start Dating " but no , hes a christian with his retarted christian message.

  12. marlin gates on May 28, 2019 at 12:38 pm

    I was 18 personally because I was never that into dating but honestly.
    I think have the time place and actually similarity go ahead.
    I think 14 yrs is okay because it a teen relationship but everyone different

  13. 4Tifier on May 28, 2019 at 12:39 pm

    But if you’re fully content with singleness, then why would you date or prepare for marriage?

    I would say based on your point that one shouldn’t be discontent with singleness to the point where they’re idolizing marriage/relationships. Besides, God works in our lives in ways we like and don’t like, yet it’s always for the best.

    Yet if one has absolutely no inclination or desire to get married, then that may actually mean that they should be single.

  14. Nicolay Parraga Romo on May 28, 2019 at 12:40 pm

    Hi man, I am from Ecuador, I like your videos, I would like to know: How to know who is the right person to me?

  15. Lindsey R on May 28, 2019 at 12:42 pm

    I’m 20 and no one has been interested in me.

  16. David Fomin on May 28, 2019 at 12:43 pm

    Thank you. This video I needed to hear. It was painful to hear ”if you’re not already content with Christ alone, you won’t be content with a partner". And up until now I’ve been completely content, but lately I’ve just been craving any form of attention. I don’t even care for sexual relations, as pleasant as that would be. just a girl to be with who I could talk to and cuddle or something. I know we’re never alone because God and Christ are always with us. But are we to blame for wanting human attention? Is that so sinful?
    I know I was a horrible sinner before, but I have been redeemed through Christ, and I no longer live in sin. I even gave up masturbation, which had plagued me for years, because obeying God was more desirable for me. Can I not just have an innocent relationship where I can just be there with someone ? To be with a physical presence? Or must I be completely satisfied with the Spirit and presence of God in me and in the world?
    But your will be done, Lord, not mine.

  17. Marie Allmon on May 28, 2019 at 12:43 pm

    My granddaughter just got married at 23 and her parents decided but she was in college them and they told her no you cannot get married until you are at after Kali so her and her boyfriend got engaged in 2016 they just got married last January in 2018 so they’ve been engaged for a really really long time they’re very compatible but she’s even going for a very long time so which is good and they had to wait no kissing no hugging no nothing they had the day out of Christian parents around them all the time

  18. La Dame en Rose on May 28, 2019 at 12:46 pm

    This is absolutely true! As a 20 year old, I get so caught up in finding "the one" especially at church. Everyone around me is in some kind of relationship even some younger than me and I guess the pressure is high. But I’ve been praying about it because I know well that I’m not near ready and that it’s just my surroundings that affect me. I know I have to seek Jesus first and make him the center if everything. He is more than enough and I definitely need to feel, believe and live that. Thank you so much for your insight and perspective

  19. Watermelon Queen on May 28, 2019 at 12:47 pm


  20. Sivateja Addala on May 28, 2019 at 12:49 pm

    very lovely video bro..Thq for best advices….The questions were quite intresting

  21. Mbasa Dumisa on May 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    Is it really possible to be in a relationship, but not have sex if you are a guy?
    If so, how do you prevent yourself from having sex if you dating?

  22. Genesis Sharon on May 28, 2019 at 12:50 pm

    wow… The video is perfect… to God be the glory*** no one can love enough bt the person compromising to love God, cannot love the other one…(bf or gf)

  23. Riley Selasi on May 28, 2019 at 12:51 pm


  24. Annie Georges on May 28, 2019 at 12:53 pm

    My question: What should you do if a non believer wants to be with you? i read about it that you should not yolk urself with them but if they marry you that they will be made holy because you are holy

  25. daan slomp on May 28, 2019 at 12:56 pm

    Boys and girls, you can allways worry about religion later when you’re old and stuck in some dead end job you hate, while you’re still young and in high school just remember to have fun and don’t take everything as seriously as this guy.

  26. Pachiki Shalaputa on May 28, 2019 at 12:58 pm

    Do I seriously have to wait till I’m 21!?!

  27. Kid Panda on May 28, 2019 at 12:58 pm

    I agree to an extent.because my.partner and I.both motivate each other to get closer to god and yes we still make.mistakes.but.we learn. From it and it brings us closer to.each other and God.as well

  28. Jona Sula on May 28, 2019 at 1:00 pm

    Hello justin! I am 17 years old and i have been in a relationship for two years now. We both believe in God and I put God before everythink, my boyfriend isn’t as important as God..
    Our relationship is very strong and we make plans about future and marriage. What do you think? Am I doing the right thing? Please help me, I am very confused about my age , dating and such things.

  29. Zackariah Craig Jr on May 28, 2019 at 1:01 pm

    I know this video is old but I really thank you for this. I almost got myself into something I don’t need to be in before I have my relationship with God worked out first. As a 16-year-old, I frequently wonder about who God will set into my life as my partner but now I realize I need to work on myself first. Once again, thank you for this.

  30. felipe moreira Almeida on May 28, 2019 at 1:03 pm

    These days I’ve thinking about getting a girlfriend. This video helped me a lot to think and focus on what is really important. I have things to do like in my church and school. Maybe this pressure of being a teen and don’t having a girlfriend lead me where I shouldn’t be. God bless you all. First seek his kingdom.

  31. dylan ouimet on May 28, 2019 at 1:05 pm

    I’m 14 and I’ve been talking to this girl and I feel that we are both mature enough to start a relationship but I am an athies and she’s very religious and I just wanted to get your opinion on how that would work out. And she’s fine with that I’m an athies

  32. Alexina M on May 28, 2019 at 1:05 pm

    Do you think atheists can have good relationships and marriages?

  33. Mbasa Dumisa on May 28, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    Is it really possible to be in a relationship, but not have sex if you are a guy?
    If so, how do you prevent yourself from having sex if you dating?

  34. Samantha Raymond on May 28, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    Im 16. Thank you. ❤ you answered all my questions.

  35. DAVID FILER on May 28, 2019 at 1:06 pm

    Reduce Christianity by not dating – Ever……

  36. Hamilton Rowan on May 28, 2019 at 1:06 pm


  37. Eboni Taylor on May 28, 2019 at 1:13 pm

    Nothing wrong with thinking serious about relationships at a young age, because it is taught in the bible that the relationship should lead to marriage because the bible does not speak about boyfriend and girlfriends but about wives and husbands…so just let God do the match making and never go chasing for someone because God has it sorted at whatever age he decides to bring you to your future husband/wife.

  38. Adam Fusco on May 28, 2019 at 1:13 pm

    What should you do when the parents of the person you are dating don’t like you and are very discouraging and only rebuke your girlfriend/boyfriend while also not demonstrating good christian ideals?

  39. Mr. Berlingo on May 28, 2019 at 1:13 pm

    Oh dear so many of these comments are so sad to read. I’m convinced the reason I’m single at 44 is that I was put off dating as a teenager out of fear for "getting it wrong", "putting God / study first", and a general lack of self-confidence, all mainly emanating from Christian teaching. The later I left it, the less confidence I had to make anything happen. Then I eventually met a lady on a Christian group holiday, and started dating her afterwards (she was about 30 and I was about 40). Neither of us had a clue how to handle a relationship due to inexperience! Plus by this time I had been having serious doubts about my faith for at least 10 years…which eventually led to me having to break up with her as I was less and less convinced about the Christian faith but her faith was solid. I’ve been to a few speed dating events since, but don’t have the confidence or drive to put a lot of effort into starting a long term relationship and largely feel I’ve just left it too late.

    Also in my relationship above, we fell into the trap of reading this awful book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Dating-Relationships-Thomas-Gerald-Hiestand/dp/1433527111/ref=tmm_pap_title_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= . One of its major ideas is to have a "dating friendship" until you get engaged, so no-one gets hurt if you split up. Yeah, that really worked (not!), she was still mortified a year on.

  40. Dayve Estacado on May 28, 2019 at 1:16 pm

    I’m thinking about switching but can i pleasure my self as a Christian

  41. Monone on May 28, 2019 at 1:17 pm

    I’m 19 and I have never dated anyone, but I realized that maybe it is because God wants me to focus on Him on this part of my life :3

  42. Evelyn Guzman on May 28, 2019 at 1:17 pm

    I love your videos, such grate advice ! May God keep blessing you!

  43. Meli Pitolua on May 28, 2019 at 1:19 pm

    Is there such things as age Gap that’s to Big to be considered a Christian relationship?

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